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Destiny is what it is …

By Chukwuneta Oby
19 August 2017   |   3:51 am
What can one expect from an environment where one’s ancestry, irrespective of how many decades you have operated in the system, or an obvious accent will always count against you…one way or the other?

I read some stuff sometime back about Melania. Stuffs that are allegedly about her past. I had come across similar stuffs on foreign ‘soft news’ portals and immediately chucked it down to Oyibo bad belle. What can one expect from an environment where one’s ancestry, irrespective of how many decades you have operated in the system, or an obvious accent will always count against you…one way or the other?

As if the foreign stuffs on Melania weren’t enough. A few of our national dailies dabbled into the gist, too, and I just couldn’t help exclaiming ‘’there we go again!”

Must we?
Yes…must we join every “pull down, finger-pointing, rake-up-a-dirty-past, smear a reputation” bandwagon?
Don’t get me wrong; I am not a fan of her husband’s kind of politics. However, that story was pointing to her as rather not deserving her current fortune.

I mean, it is beginning to seem like the basic instinct in most of us is to immediately analyse “why it should not be so,”…once life smiles on another. Some human beings even go the pathetic route of raking up the past of the ‘favoured’ person; a past that he/she obviously doesn’t live in anymore.

These set of people can’t seem to talk about “the favoured” without bringing a past that doesn’t exist anymore into the picture. That is, they bye-pass who you are today to go looking for who you were.

Some years back, a friend’s brother qualified as a medical doctor in the United States of America. When the news of his success broke out. My friend told me that some of his secondary school peers were filled with the ‘how’ (how come and how can) remarks. A few even alleged that he couldn’t even pass biology in their school days.

My confusion with this ‘bunch’ is just because they can’t even get themselves to contain the hard time they have accepting another’s glory.

Hello!
Destiny is what it is. And if you must play the blame game…please blame destiny. The fact that you think you are more deserving of a blessing than another, is exactly why you can’t have it!

Life rewards a humble spirit and will always disappoint those with a sense of entitlement, because they simply do not understand that there is something called destiny in the affairs of life. And it is usually occasioned by time and chance. Sometimes it’s not how far you have gone but how “well” you have been going the moment your morning began.

It is not in your place to decide who deserves what blessings or not. Content yourself with your lot…as you pray and work for your own fulfillment in life. Life as I understand it, will not look at your face to smile on anybody…neither does God need your permission to bless anyone.

Consider the case of the woman that a former president goes home to at the end of the day. As funny as some of her ‘words on the marble’ are…most of the jibes being thrown at her were actually coming from those who can’t believe she (and not them…with all their knowledge, exposure, beauty, status in the society, etc) is in that position.

Destiny is what it is, hon!
And it does not need your permission to carry out its assignment.

So, the next time you find yourself beefing “the blessed,” try blaming destiny. We simply do not know how to rejoice for others without trying to analyse whether or not they are entitled to their blessing, why it is he/she or them that should receive such blessings-after all, I am/we/you (are) supposed to be better looking, more educated, more this and more that.

By the way, as you let the picture or details of another’s past (who he/she used to be) form your only impression of them, you should also be gracious enough to accommodate the possibility that they may have made efforts that you know nothing about to crawl out of that hole…to embrace the life that has now happened to them.

Some of us learn about another’s good news, immediately compares it to our circumstances and conclude that ‘’life is not fair.’’ You know…when some people go ‘’life is not fair,’’ most times, they are thinking how come he/she, and not me, the supposed better one is not this blessed?

I have often preached this…
. Run your life’s race the best way you know how.
. Work towards your goals but, most importantly, embrace positivity in your endeavours.
. When destiny smiles on anybody…handle it well. Yes –deal with it.
. If you can’t be happy for him/her…at least look the other way.
. The “why him/her and not me” mentality will only hurt you more.

Because…
Destiny is what it is!
It does not seek permission from the past, circumstances or even you, to smile on anybody.

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