Why women cheat
I know most men would be super excited about this newsletter. I bet they are tired of hearing everywhere that men are scum. Anyways the truth of the matter is women cheat as much as men do. Happy now?
Getting laid by a stranger has never been easier, thanks to technology. This is equally true for singles as well as married individuals, thanks to a variety of websites and apps that cater to users looking for easy, casual sex. Men and women cheat…its not news.
So why do they cheat? They cheat because something is missing in their lives. The need to fill in that missing piece is what leads to affairs and often divorce.
Today, men and women stray at similar rates but for different reasons. While there are different reasons why women cheat, I am going to focus on helping couples move past their affairs.
Some reasons I’ve heard from women are as follows:
Lack of Connection
The primary driver that women have in an intimate relationship is to feel connected. For women, the feeling of connection is a mix of chemical bliss that creates attraction and intimacy. When women feel disconnected from their spouse, the feelings of intimacy fade. The possibility of a new connection with someone else opens up. And these emotional connections can easily lead to physical affairs. That can happen through Facebook with an old boyfriend, a friendly co-worker, or even an intriguing stranger. The common theme is simply that an emotional connection was created and led to the affair.
This may be unpopular to some but about 1 in 5 affairs by women happen because of “pay-back”. It’s revenge for the husband’s affair. It’s vengeance for some perceived wrong or mistreatment. Numerous women have confided that their affairs were intentional “pay-back” because their husbands didn’t’ help out enough with their newborn babies and toddlers. Others have mentioned that it was revenge for an unmet expectation around Valentine’s Day or their Birthday, or Anniversary. It could be anything at all.
It’s no secret that people’s stressful, fully scheduled, fast paced living leads to unsatisfying sex lives. Lack of passionate and fulfilling sex, is another driver for affairs.
While men may complain about the quantity of sex, women complain about the quality. Women often comment on the lack of sex initiated by their husbands with the desired amount of passion. Here’s a sample of what I’ve heard some women say; “I want him to just take me spontaneously”, “I want him to throw me on the bed”, “I want him to be more aggressive.” These statements often include far more colorful words. The mistake that men make is thinking that his wife, now mom of three, has lost her desire for hot, steamy sex. She hasn’t. And many women are not willing to settle for a passion-less marriage.
There is no doubt that women are often less satisfied with their marriage than men. Not only are women having affairs at increasing rates, they initiate divorce at staggering levels. According to some story I read in a magazine, women initiated 69% of divorce. Maybe this is a wake-up call to men.
If you’re a man reading this article, you are probably shocked. If you are a woman reading this, it probably just confirms what you already know.
The needs of both men and women will continue to be met; either inside the marriage, or outside with someone else.
Cheating in relationships is still something we humans have not found a way to stop. Some have but its hard for most to and its only because they don’t want to. Better your relationship with your spouse, make him or her communicate with you better so she or he is all you want and more.
To our happiness. Cheers.
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