It’s simple, really. A healthy relationship doesn’t draw inspiration from or make comparison to other “fantasy relationships”. The key to becoming a happy couple is to create your own fairy tale. What it takes is dedicating your time and emotions to each other, and putting in a little extra work every now and then.
HOW TO BECOME A HAPPY COUPLE –
When you communicate, you build a stronger bond with your partner. Talk about things that bother you as well as the things that make you happy. If there’s something you don’t understand be sure to let your partner now and avoid misunderstandings. You can have conversations about nothing in particular, and plan your future together as well. However, don’t make the mistake of nagging and then saying you were trying to communicate. There are much better ways to communicate your feelings than being a nag and pouring negativity into your relationship.
Build A Common Interest
While you don’t have to do EVERYTHING with your partner, it helps to have one or two common interests. A sign of a healthy relationship is enjoying spending time together, and the best way to enjoy doing something together is when you’re both interested in that particular activity. If you don’t have one presently, fret not. Try out a couple of crafts and hobbies together until you find the one you enjoy working on the most.
Always Make ‘Us Time’
Life can get really busy sometimes, and we barely even have time for ourselves. But one of the craft highlights of being a happy couple is making time to be with one another. We believe you make time for the things that are important to you – like your relationship. You can have a lunch break every other day if one or both of you happens to be a working professional. On weekends, you can have mini vacations and just go away, or have a picnic, or just stay home with some popcorn and Netflix.
Cuddles Often – It Feels Great
Sometimes, lying in bed with your lover and just cuddling can be even more intimate than sex. Research has shown that happy couples in healthy relationships often happen as a result of smelling each other while cuddling. How? The way your partner smells over time will begin to have a comforting and soothing effect on you.
Say “I Love You” Everyday
Even if you’ve been together long enough for your partner to know you love him/her, you should still say it every single day. You can write it in notes and leave somewhere for him/her to find, or you can say it in sign language. You can even have your own cheesy “I love you” sign that only both of you know and use. You should both be reminded of how you feel about each other every day. Let those words be the first thing in the morning, and the last before you go to sleep.
Have A Sense of Humor
People on twitter often joke that a funny man will steal a woman’s heart. This is actually almost 100% accurate. A person laughs when they are happy or they enjoy a feeling. If you can incite that feeling in a person repeatedly and regularly, there is no way they won’t want to be around you all the time. A good couple shares a sense of humor and a couple of inside jokes.
I have no idea why people are so ashamed to admit they like PDA. Maybe it has something to do with how condescending our society tends to be about sex in general. Still, holding hands while taking a walk or exchanging quick pecks is sufficient PDA that won’t attract too many glares. A personal favorite is slipping my hand into his back pocket and giving his butt a little squeeze.
Discuss Your Future Together
Whichever way you choose to do it – with notepads and calendars or by deep conversations – a happy couple plans everything together. You are a team and should work as such. Cultivate the habit of making decisions together. No decision is too big or too small to make together. It may seem trivial, but you’ll be glad you did it in the long run.
Small gestures are enough to keep you both happy for a long time. You don’t have to be filthy rich or live in a different time zone for you to live your own happily ever after. Who knows? Someone might see a picture of you and your boo one day and tag it
‘GOALS!!!’ as well.
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