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Evidence of wrong relationship – Part 2

By Solomon Ojigiri
21 October 2018   |   1:32 am
You cannot continue in a wrong relationship and expect it to metamorphose into a successful marriage in future. You cannot be lazy or wasting your resources now and expect to be rich and comfortable tomorrow.

You cannot continue in a wrong relationship and expect it to metamorphose into a successful marriage in future. You cannot be lazy or wasting your resources now and expect to be rich and comfortable tomorrow. Life is a matter of choice and not chance. You must refuse to sabotage your future and stop mortgaging God’s plan for your life with wrong or poor decisions. Wrong relationship is always obvious, especially when you are well informed. Because of its numerous characteristics, you cannot be in a wrong relationship without knowing.

Although sometimes you may not have detailed parameters to examine whether you are in a wrong relationship or not, that is why I deemed it fit to write a book of this kind to enable young people identify what a wrong relationship is all about, how to identify it and run away from it. It is better to quit a wrong relationship than to keep enduring it. Relationship is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Enduring a wrong relationship without calling it quits is like digging one’s grave without knowing. It leads to wrong marriage, abusive marriage and sometimes divorce, or even premature death of one or both parties involved. No wonder James Dobson, an international marriage counselor, said we must learn how to open our eyes very wide in courtship, because we will need to close it a little bit in the marriage.

Follow us in this series carefully, prayerfully and allow God to speak to you. In case you are already in a relationship, then you need to ask yourself if you are in a right relationship or a wrong one. In case you are not in any relationship yet, then you need to know this ahead of time, so that you will not make the mistake of entering into a wrong relationship. Prevention, they say, is always better than cure.

You need to be observant, make the right decision and avoid regret in your life and relationship. Joseph Newton said, “It is not what we see, but what we choose that make or mar our lives.” If you discover that you have made a wrong decision, no matter how far you have gone, change it, no matter what it will cost you. Do not build your life or relationship on error; do something about it before it is too late. Your decision must be based on the future than the present. No matter how far you have gone in the wrong direction, it is never too late to retrace your step in the right direction. Do not go to the altar with a wrong person.

It is germane at this junction to take note of the following facts about our choices:
• Not all relationships are right relationships. There are wrong relationships and there are wrong relationships.
• Wrong relationships can never transform into a right marriage or blissful marriage. Wrong relationship will always metamorphose into a problematic marriage.
• It is the word of God that helps us to know what a right or wrong relationship is all about. It is not for any television talk show host to determine, because God Himself is the Author of marriage. God alone holds the patent right.
2Tim 3v16 says, “all scripture is given by the inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness” (1 John 4v1, Pro 18v22; 20v6, 1 Thess. 5v21)
• The alarming rate of separation and divorce in our generation calls for caution, proper examination of the causes, prayers and analytical thinking and absolute trust in the Lord.
• We need to properly and seriously examine ourselves and our relationships and answer the pertinent question: Am I in a right or wrong relationship? Knowing that it is all about your life.
• The decision of who to marry will surely have eternal consequences on your life, your future and that of your children.
• Your decision makes or mars your life. You make a decision, which eventually makes you.
• We need to understand that relationship is not by force but by choice.
• Blissful, successful and lasting marriage is a matter of making the right choice.
• We must take responsibilities for all our decisions. We have no one to blame for the consequences of our choices. You must be willing and ready to live with the consequences of your choice. You have no one to blame and no one will live your life for you.
• Your marriage can be another heaven on earth, if you make the right choice. But it can also be another hell on earth, if you make the wrong choice or you close your eyes to obvious character flaws.
• Your destiny is in your hands, it is always at the mercy of your decision.
• Marriage is not just about getting the right partner, but you must become the right partner.
Excerpt from my book “EVIDENCE OF WRONG RELATIONSHIP”
Contact: Everwinning Faith Ministries Int’l
31, Oritse Street, off Awolowo Way, Balogun Bus Stop, Ikeja, Lagos.
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