Experts task couples on divorce, broken homes

In a bid to stem the rising cases of divorce across the country, couples and would-be couples have been advised to complement, as well as accommodate and understand one another.

The advice was given by a psychologist and marriage counsellor, Ebele Chinwe at an event organised by Catholic Young Adult Association (CYAA) of the St Michael Catholic Church, Ketu Lagos.

At the programme tagged: “Journey to Medes: the search for an ideal relationship,” she said it is possible for young adults to tolerate each other without having issues all the time, only if they understand that they are human beings, raised and brought up by different parents and having separate personalities.

Ebele, who is also a dream builder Coach, said the two major trending issues for couples nowadays are childlessness and infidelity. She, however, said these shouldn’t pose much of a problem, when couples understand that marriage is first of all for companionship and self-satisfaction, as well as accept that children are blessings from God.

“Marriage is a path to sanctity,” she asserted. “And this can only be achieved by living your marital life very well without any recorded fault from your end. Individuals should strive to be the best they can be in their relationship.”

In her view, a lot of modifications and adjustments have to be made in marriage because the two people involved are not brought up the same way.

“This means that partners have to become more tolerant, more generous and more loving, when dealing with themselves. Also, would-be couples have the responsibility of first working on their personalities to be the best, while the lady awaits Mr. Right and the man makes move to approach Mrs. Right because it takes two like minds to attract each other.

CYAA President, Mr. Ezeugo Eboh, told The Guardian that currently, keeping a good relationship, sustaining, maintaining and nourishing a marriage seems difficult, which was the reason for organising the programme.

“The programme was aimed at waging war against and putting a stop to current trend of broken homes and relationships, which is resulting in some people doing drugs and becoming emotionally traumatised to the point of committing suicide,” he said.

Basilia Ohaji, one of the organisers, explained to The Guardian that the church, as one of the bedrocks of the society, should be able to heal and put a permanent stop to all these happenings, which are impacting negatively on the society, hence, the need to put the programme together so that the root of the problem could be dealt with and terminated.