Successful marriage is bedrock of every good society’

Life coach, couple mentor and President of Harriet New life foundation, Mrs. Lovett Benjamin Obiakalusi, has said that a successful marriage is a formidable tool and bedrock for national development.

Speaking during a virtual meeting to celebrate her birthday, Obiakalusi who has been married for 28 years said that the success of any marriage is dependent on the definition given to it as marriage thrives, when both parties think it is worth fighting for.

To her, if everyone fights for the success of their marriage, then the society will definitely become a better place.

“Marriage is one single unit that touches every part of the society. People who have become armed robbers, cultists, prostitutes and assassins are from one home or the other and the society is where it is because of them. Once the devil is able to destroy marriage, the society is finished.”

Obiakalusi explained that a failed marriage will lead to a failed family which will inadvertently lead to a failed society. Every form of vices seen in the society today is a result of failed marriages because an unhappy couple can not raise happy children.

Referring to her almost three decades of marital bliss, Obiakalusi who doubles as founder, Women Of Valor Global Ministry gave the tools for a successful marriage to be Love and Submission.

“The man is to Love his wife while the woman should submit to her husband. Love and Submission are all-encompassing. God says a man should love his wife like Christ loves the church. Christ loves the church even to the point of death.

“I interpret love from the man as leadership, direction of purpose, provision and being secured under his custody, while women should submit to their men with respect, humility and love,” she said.

She emphasized that marriage is God’s gift to His children and it is meant to keep them happy. God only gives good gifts and understanding this will help intending couples to be conscious that their marriage affects the society at large.

Obiakalusi added that forgiveness, validation, reaction over response, ability to say sorry, intimacy, intentionality, seeking a godly partner over a perfect one and most importantly, God at the center are important for a successful and godly marriage.