Emotional healing as requirement for having a healthy, loving, and lasting relationships/ marriage, was the focus at this year’s edition of Manual Conference for women hosted by renowned family life and relationship coach, Dr. Kinglsey Okonkwo.
  
Manual Conference is an impactful relationship conference aimed at equipping couples and singles with Godly principles for wholesome relationships and marital successes.
  
This year’s conference with the theme: ‘Heal Before You Deal’ was held at David’s Christian Centre, Lekki, Lagos. Okonkwo said: “As a marriage coach and counsellor, I found out that people bring their past hurts and traumas into their relationships and marriages. That’s where the breakdown comes from. As we normally say, it is the quality of eggs that determines the quality of the omelettes.  If more people can be healed before they enter relationships, they will have better relationships. So, that’s the whole idea behind this; to provide healing for people from their past, traumas from hurts, from whatever it is in order to have more whole and healthy people.”
    
“The truth is that healing is a process. It’s a journey, and we are all on that journey. We are all at different stages of healing. It is something that will continue.
 
The convener also unveiled his new book ‘Heal Before You Deal’ at the conference.
On the impact the book would make, he said: “I see the book helping people to heal, helping people to identify which areas they need healing and how to go about it. It’s just us trying to provide assistance and help to people. The book will be available on all international platforms for books and also on our website, LDMwithpk.org.”
 
Also speaking, an American relationship and heartbreak coach who also spoke at the conference, Keishorne Scott, reiterated the importance of seeking healing.
“Healing is very important because it is necessary that you turn your pain into purpose. Because if you don’t heal, you will carry on these hurts, disappointments, depressions and unforgiveness into every relationship and every person you come in contact with. Carrying on with pain strips everything away from you. It takes away your happiness, your goals, your dreams and you don’t become the person you are meant to be.”
  
In the same vein, Lara Kudayisi, an author and relationship coach, who also shared her inspiring story of rising above 14 heartbreaks and 15 abortions at the conference said: “I healed from having a child at 19, 14 heartbreaks, 15 abortions and a divorce. Many people don’t know that some things exist and that’s the reason they have been controlled a lot of times without knowing it. Healing is important, if not, you will repeat your experiences. You will repeat your parents’ marriage except there is an intervention.”