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9 Ways To Cope With Long-Distance Relationships

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Long-distance relationships definitely have their ups and downs. One of the hardest things about long distance relationships is that it can stand the test of time but it eventually becomes tiring.


However, there are a few things that can help with long distance relationship problems and couples who are committed to making things work out can follow them.

Make technology your best friend
The use of technology makes things easier in a long distance relationship. Couples can easily communicate with each other through their mobile phone either by text or call, use their social media accounts to chat, share photos and videos as well as having a video chat from time to time.

Have an end date
After a while of being in a long distance relationship, you will eventually need to see your partner and be together with them. Pick a date that works for both parties to see, do something fun or something you haven’t done in a while and make sure you spend quality time together.

Try doing things together
You necessarily don’t have to be together to do something that interests you. Plan a film date and watch the same movie at the same time over a video call, play online games, discuss news, gossip and have interesting conversations all together. Play an online game together. Watch a documentary on YouTube at the same time. Sing to each other on Skype while one of you plays the guitar. “Take a walk together” outside while video-calling each other. Go online shopping together — and buy each other gifts.

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Be committed to your relationship
Be certain that you’re committed and plan to stay committed to your relationship to avoid wasting each other’s time and this applies to all relationships especially those involved or planning to get involved in a long distance relationship.

Make Plans
Map out and discuss details about all the fun things you and your partner can do together the next time you plan to see. Create a list of things you would like to do together such as fun places you would like to go to when you meet or goals you would like to achieve together as a couple.

Be Confident
Be sure to trust and have confidence in your partner because a lack of confidence can lead to insecurity in your relationship. This may result in excessive calls and texts being sent at the wrong time or for the wrong reasons and can lead to unnecessary tension as one partner begins to check on the other way too much.

Have a schedule and stick to it
Have a fixed date for everything you have planned with your partner and try as much as possible to stick with it. If there’s going to be a cancellation make sure you tell your partner beforehand and pick another date to make it up to them.

Set Boundaries
Make your partner aware of things that make you feel uncomfortable, threatened or insecure in the relationship. Set some rules and boundaries, be sure to keep it in mind and always follow them strictly.

Verbal assurance
Just like any relationship, doubts, insecurities, and jealousy can creep in. However, they tend to run high in long distance relationships simply because you’re spending so much time away from each other. This is why it is recommended that you engage in frequent verbal assurances with one another.

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