Long-distance relationship: How to make it work

Long-distance relationships can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to mean constant worry or loneliness. With communication, creativity, and intentional effort, couples can turn the distance int...

Long-distance relationships can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to mean constant worry or loneliness. With communication, creativity, and intentional effort, couples can turn the distance into an opportunity to grow closer and stronger.

We all know that working on a relationship from a distance can be emotionally and mentally taxing, but in the long run, it can also be deeply rewarding. The key is figuring out what works best for you and your partner, and then committing fully.

Relationships thrive on shared experiences: impromptu coffee dates, a reassuring touch, or the silent understanding conveyed through a glance.


In a long-distance relationship (LDR), however, these everyday moments are missing. Whether separated by career opportunities, academic pursuits, or geography, couples often struggle with loneliness, doubts, or feeling left out of each other’s lives. The questions creep in: “Is this worth it?” “Does my partner still feel the same?” “What if they’re moving on without me?”

But distance doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Here are practical ways to nurture your relationship despite the distance:

Set expectations early

At the start of your long-distance relationship, be clear about what you both expect. Maybe you’d like to talk once a day, while your partner prefers texts throughout the day. There’s no single formula; what matters is working together to create a rhythm you both enjoy.

Prioritise communication

Communication is the bedrock of any relationship, but in an LDR, it’s non-negotiable. Share your schedules and keep each other updated. Use the medium your partner prefers, whether texts, calls, or video chats. The goal is to stay in touch and make each other feel heard, valued, and included.

Plan visits and getaways

Spontaneous dates may not be possible, but planning ahead keeps the spark alive. Countdowns to your next trip can build excitement and give you both something to look forward to.

Be creative with virtual connection

Think beyond phone calls. Being far away forces you to think outside the box, but don’t let that worry you. Cook the same meal over video call, watch a movie together online, or take on a fun DIY project. It isn’t always about the grand gestures but more the effort is what strengthens the bond.

Celebrate milestones, big or small

Did one of you land a new job? Finish a course? Make time to celebrate it. Ritualising even the smallest wins helps create consistency and connection across the miles.

Speak your love languages

Love languages still matter, even from afar. If your partner values words of affirmation, send voice notes or short videos. If they appreciate gifts, surprise them with a thoughtful package. Spend quality time together over the phone. Adapt your gestures to fit the distance.

Treat it as a learning season

Long-distance provides an important learning opportunity. It helps many couples discover more about themselves, their resilience, personal needs, and priorities. It’s a chance to build independence, focus on yourself, and spend time with family and friends while staying committed to your partner. Take advantage of those opportunities.

LDRs may not be easy, but they’re not impossible. With trust, intentionality, and creativity, distance can deepen your relationship rather than weaken it.

Chidinma Enweani

Guardian Life

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