Experts attribute societal vices to bad parenting, over pampering
Say Boy-child Treated Unfairly Over The Years
Experts have attributed the surge in social vices bordering on drug abuse, rape, cultism and ritual killings to bad parenting.
They spoke at a Boy-child sensitisation forum, organised by A Mother’s Love Initiative, a Non-Governmental Organisation in Lagos, to mark International Day for the Boy-child with the theme, “The importance of a father and son relationship from the lens of the Boy-child.”
They also decried the downward trend in the nation’s education, morals, and cultural values.
In a statement, yesterday, the foundation President of Computer Professionals of Nigeria, Mr. Tunde Ezichi, said the sordid situation in the country presently could be traced to certain parenting mistakes and missing elements in raising the modern boy-child.
He said the way he was raised was different from the way children are being raised today, noting that there are a lot of influences– societal, technological, and security influences affecting children today.
“What has happened is that the pressure of the society has tended to affect the people generally, as enough time is not being devoted by parents in raising their children. In the days when we were young, raising a child was the responsibility of everybody, but these days, that does not seem to be the case. Children at times are left to their whims and caprices and people are sort of indifferent to children misbehaving in the society without disciplining them.
The ICT consultant said the attitude of parents toward their children by abandoning their core responsibilities and over pampering the children is doing more harm than good.
In her address, the Chief Executive Officer, A Mother’s Love Initiative, Hanatu A. Enwemadu said the boy-child is fast becoming invisible because society assumes that they are invincible.
“They are hurried through childhood into adulthood and taught to mask their pains, as their tears must not be seen because showing their pains is a sign of weakness. They are taught to be tough: “Boys don’t cry!” So they end up bottling their emotions.
“Again, there is a social but subtle bias against the boy-child. Disputes between a boy-child and a girl-child will invariably be settled in favour of the girl-child. Such stereotypes reflect the various degrees of the onslaught of trauma meted out daily on the boy-child by the society.”
Enkwemadu pointed out that such assumptions have adverse effects on the psychosocial balance and development of the boy-child, noting that if not reversed the anomalies may turn the young ones abusive in the future.
“In line with our project “Committing To Fatherhood” a project which focuses on the importance of the father’s role in keeping the family united as the smallest, yet most significant unit of human society, we asked the boy-child at all levels to send in essays titled: ‘The Father and Son Relationship from the lens of the boy-child’s based on their relationships with their fathers.’’