Osinachi: Cleric seeks restructuring of teaching on marriages
Following the death of popular gospel singer, Osinachi Nwachukwu, on account of alleged domestic violence, a cleric in the Methodist Church Nigeria, The Rev. Ugochukwu Madu has called on parents and religious institutions to restructure their teachings on marriage in line with the realities of today.
According to him, parents and clerics must stop telling people to stay in abusive relationships.
Speaking at a single conference in Abuja with the theme: “When The Going Gets Tough”, the cleric, who expressed concern over the increase in domestic violence in the country linked the menace to lack of mentorship.
He said: “Recently we have had a lot of young people committing suicide, suffering from addiction, psychological cases and currently a lot of people are domestically molested and dehumanised. A lot of young people are into relationships that have actually ruined their life but they are afraid of what society would say if they reveal it.
“ A lot of people go to church but they don’t have the opportunity for mentorship. That is one critical aspect of ministry. There is no provision for mentorship.”
Madu, who blamed the late singer and her family for not speaking out at the right time, however, suggested that the deceased might have been hypnotised by her husband.
“Osinachi and her pastor may have a smooth relationship, but it goes beyond that. When I was speaking with her siblings, I told them that they didn’t do well, especially the younger brother. I told him that as a man, his duty was to protect her even if she says no. I blame them partially for that. It is also possible that she was hypnotised if the man is into occultism.
“We have seen cases in a family where couples control themselves with magical power. In such cases, the man or the woman that has been hypnotised won’t have the ability to say what they are going through because there is an extraordinary force working in them,” he added.
Also, a lecturer at the Michael Okpara University of Agriculture Umudike, Dr. Udodirim Igwe observed that many young people enter marriage unprepared.
Igwe, who is also a marriage counselor, said:” Many of these young women don’t want to be part of the man growing up to succeed and because of that the man would think the wife married him because of his money and subsequently dictates the tunes. A lot of young women don’t want to improve themselves and it ought not to be so. Every young person must learn to equip themselves for the future to maintain relevance in the man’s life.”