Rosemary Olubode, host of Rosemary Olubode Inspirational, a social media page geared towards enlightening women about their fundamental role to their husband, has revealed one of the major reasons men cheat on their wives.
In recent times, marriage has become unattractive and divorce rate continues to soar, owing to spouses neglecting their basic responsibilities to each other. But Rosemary Olubode, through Rosemary Olubode Inspirational, is yielding to what has become a calling, to help spouses, especially working-class women, fulfill their marital obligation to their husband, one of which is exhibiting deep love and care at home for the man.
The Rosemary Olubode Inspirational initiator, who is a trained pharmacist and founder of Rosebod Pharmacy located in the Ogudu area of Lagos State, was born in 1975, in Jibowu area of the state. She attended Onayade Community Primary School, and had her secondary education at Jibowu High School; both in Lagos. After emerging as the best student in the West African Examination Council (WAEC) in her school in 1993, the entrepreneur graduated from the University of Benin with a honours degree in Pharmacy.
Raised in a Christian home under a strict mother, the chief host of Rosemary Olubode Inspirational assimilated good upbringing and family values she saw her mother demonstrated. Grew up in a single room which she occupied with her parents, an uncle and auntie, she had a mental picture of the kind of man she wanted as a husband, and the sort of future she wanted for herself. According to her, the passion to erase pop culture mentality and social media influence among young married women, motivated the determination to make such impact in the lives of others.
“I think personally, it (lack of care for men by their wives) is one of the reasons some men cheat. There are some men that even when you do all those things; cook for them, take care of them, they will still cheat. But majority of men cheat when as a woman, you don’t know how to cook and you are not even trying to learn. You cannot take care of the home,” Rosemary Olubode explained.
Speaking further, Rosemary Olubode said, “What has changed is that women of this generation, they take a lot of things for granted. They want to live the life they see on social media and it is all fake. And it is sort of different in the way they think, they are carried away, not calm and do not want to understand their spouse. They are following what is said on TV, on Instagram, Twitter and TikTok. Those days, there was no Instagram, so your model was the way your parents brought you up. Now, though they have a way their parents brought them up, but they are still looking at life in the glam. So they now compare, most of them choose what is said on social media, which is wrong.
“Some women are lazy to take care of their home; they are. They would feel like they’ve been at work since like 8.00am, close at 5pm, driving through traffic. They will be tired. They will just order food online, they have chefs and cooks. There was this particular incident where one of my family friend came to my house and we were talking but I was busy doing other things. And she asked me: ‘Aunty Rosemary, I this big house, who cleans for you?’ I said nobody, she asked ‘who cooks for you?
“I said nobody. Who does this, I said nobody, and she asked who really do them, and I said I do them. She wasn’t too surprised because she was our neighbour where we were living when my husband was alive. The things I could do by myself, I try to do them, even as a working class woman. They are just lazy hiding under the pretense of work. They are just lazy, they do not want to do anything. My Inspirational stories are really helping me. In one of my videos which I have not released”, Rosemary Olubode added.
Though she lost her husband to a fire incident in Port Harcourt, Rivers State, in 2020, the Rosemary Olubode Inspirational visioner stressed that she cherishes every memory of him. Rosemary Olubode revealed that healing from the huge loss of her husband is one of reasons for her fortitude to share her story and counsel women about marriage, adding that, “I’m healing, the healing is like at 80 percent. Before now, there was no day I do not cry because once I come home, I come to an empty home.”
