Between my wife (Carol) and I, people who know us very well know and say that I am more romantic. But what they do not know is that, I am not only romantic than her, but also by far more romantic than Therefore, I determine the romantic growth of our marriage. Someone may ask: can a marriage grow romantically, especially when people are no longer as young as they used to be? Oh yes, a marriage can grow romantically, if it is still very much alive because every living thing grows. Many marriages are either dead, dying, or are in stagnation romantically. A marriage that has romantically stagnated does not mean that such a marriage is full of quarrels. There may be quarrels or no quarrels. But the holding of hands, the sweet words, the kisses, the holidays, the eating and chilling out, the shopping together, the sexual communication might have stagnated or withered away.

I made up my mind early in my marriage that I would deliberately take steps not to allow our romantic flame to stagnate or quench. Since I wedded Carol over thirty years ago, our romantic flame had stagnated on many occasions. But when it happens, Carol hardly knows, until I point it out to her that the fire is quenching and that we need to do something to make our romantic fire hotter. Because I am the president of our home and the self-appointed minister for the romance affairs of our marriage, I try to ensure that we keep looking for ways to be romantically attracted to each other. As far as I am concerned, packaging matters a lot. People are likely to buy a product that is very beautifully packaged, but a little lower in quality than a product that is better in quality but badly packaged. A man of God said many years ago that “beauty attracts” and each time Carol and I make efforts to work on our clothes and our looks, we get more attracted to each other. 

For example, as the minister for romance affairs, there was a time I had to take my wife out shopping for the kind of clothes I felt would make me be more romantically attracted to her. Remember that beauty attracts. Some time ago, Carol and I had to discuss the lifestyle being put up by one of us that was capable of having a negative effect on our romance life. We felt discussing it would make us more romantically attracted to each other.

The point I have been trying to make in this write-up is that the more romantic among couples should try to assume the responsibility of making each other look romantically okay so that their romantic life will not die or stagnate. From time to time, my wife, the whole family and I will go to some private beaches or lagoons, just to enjoy God’s creation. There was a time I wanted to spend a whole day with my wife only at one of these private beaches, as a way of growing our romance lives, but we ended up watching a morally instructive movie in the home of our daughter and her husband. But I am looking forward to when Carol and I will be alone at the beach snacking, strolling, holding hands, and just deciding to love each other more and more. Do not allow your romance lives to die or stagnate. Work on it deliberately. Love you.