Some time ago, an old classmate suggested that those of us who had our secondary school education at James Welch Grammar School, Emevor, in Isoko North Local Council Area of Delta State between 1969 and 1973 should form a Whatsapp group. I find myself once in a while going to the Whatsapp group to read people’s posts, comments and to chat. Boy, the memories are sweet. Names, faces, nicknames, childhood pranks and many other things that I have completely forgotten were now being deposited to my memory bank.

The memories are so sweet and soothing to the extent that it has encouraged me to keep hammering on the need for couples to fill their memory banks with enough sexual memories. What do I mean? I am simply saying that now that couples have some energy for romantic and sexual activities, they should make the best use of the moment and deliberately begin to invent and carry out romantic and sexual activities from which they can make withdrawals now and at old age.

Sometime ago, a woman I know who is now climbing into old age told a group of younger ladies that despite the fact that she and her husband have children who are now fully grown up, she has no single sweet memory of romance, sexual fun or orgasm. They just have sex without making love. Now her husband is dead and there are no romantic or sexual memories that she can withdraw from her memory bank to make her have a sense of a sexually fulfilled life.

Another woman, whose husband is dead, said that her romance and sex life with her husband was real fun. She had so much deposited in her memory bank to the extent that about two or three times in a week she will set aside a time when she is alone to withdraw sweet memories from her memory bank. She said she had prayed that God should remove sexual urge from her, which she said God answered. She said all she now lived on was sexual memories. Proverb 5:18 says “…And rejoice with the wife of your youth.”

One can see that a large part of the decision to deliberately start the process of a romantic life that is fit to be deposited into the memory bank has to be initiated and performed by the man. For example, verse 18 tells the man to “rejoice with the wife of his youth.” In verse 19 the words, “let her” is used two times. For example, “let her breast satisfy you at all times.” The last part of verse 19 tells men to bring themselves to a state to be intoxicated, delighted and satisfied always with her love.

I want to end this write up by reminding couples that there may be a time of very old age when the physical energy needed for romantic and sexual activities may not be there. At such a time, sexual enjoyment shifts to withdrawing deposits of sweet sexual memories from their memory banks. Sexual memories are powerful and everlasting. Decide to start overhauling your sex life now. Love you!