A certain lady built a shell around her, which made it very difficult for her to relax and carry on with her normal life. When you get very close to her, you would discover she had been battered and maltreated in her previous relationships. The horrible experiences she suffered in the hands of men, who professed love to her, made her not to trust any man again. It was so bad that she would rigorously interrogate any man that showed interest in her and would even download her ordeals in the hands of such men.
Most of the men ended up leaving her, because she was painting an image of a wounded heart to them. Any bitter experience you might have had in a relationship should not be a decider of your life and make you harden your heart towards advances from the opposite sex. When you are in a relationship, learn to forget about past wounds and disappointments. Do not drag old experiences to affect new relationship negatively. Learn the lessons and wisdom from your previous experiences, but do not allow negative experiences to make you look at life in negatively.
Do not torment your partner with unnecessary information and do not harass him/her with negative vibrations from the past. Heal your past wounds. The Bible tells us to forget those things behind and press forward, Phi.3: 13-14. Press forward to a bright future. Males or females, who speak and behave like the case narrated above, hardly have healthy relationships. In fact, it frustrates their partners and many pack up. Help yourself to forget past wounds.
A man, whose heart was broken in a previous relationship, vowed never to give his heart totally to any woman again. When he eventually got married to one of the best women on earth, they could not enjoy the best of each other.
What the man could have done was to have looked at where he went wrong in the former courtship and what might have made the lady behave the way she did. He should then forgive himself and the lady. Then, he should use the word of God and ask for the comforting power of the Spirit of God to come and heal the hurting heart. Reading relevant portions of the word of God brings complete healing. It is after removing these pains from the heart that will enable the logs to fall from the eyes.
In fact, I would advise that no one should go into a new relationship, until all old wounds have been healed to a tolerable level. Going into courtship or marriage with old wounds is like a footballer going to play a major football match with a broken toe. Such a footballer will either get more injured and replaced or play in pains to the end. And this is why many relationships have packed up or just enduring the pains till the end.
In case you are already in a relationship or your marriage is full of hurts, you can apply the solution above to heal your wounds. God heals wounded hearts through His Spirit. Isaiah 61:1.
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