You are likely to see many husbands and wives who think that the problem in the marriage is not coming from them but from their spouse. They never see anything wrong with themselves but rather keep looking at their spouse, as the problem. Such people always like pointing out things that were not done properly. It is so glaring that such persons will make the marriage hard and tough for their spouses. They will always watch out for areas to correct and areas to point out a fault.
If you are in a marriage relationship and you keep seeing yourself, as the superior partner while your spouse is the inferior partner, you need to take a critical look at yourself. The superiority complex of some spouses is doing a lot of harm to their marriages. They need to deliberately become more humble even if they think they know more than their spouses. They should use their knowledge to make their spouses feel better and not to feel inferior. Throughout my years at school, I found out that I learnt more from teachers and lecturers who taught us in humility than those who taught in pride. The point I am trying to make here is that correcting a spouse should be done with a spirit of humility, meekness and not out of superiority. Gal 6:1 says, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which is spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit of meekness.”
You cannot maintain a healthy relationship if you feel superior to your partner. Nobody enjoys having somebody who behaves as a superior boss as a spouse. You need to put yourself in the shoes of that person you think is permanently inferior to you in wisdom, knowledge, and understanding and in all departments of life. When you do, you will realise that as you would not like it, so does that spouse not like it one bit. Check it if you are always seeing yourself as having done nothing wrong. Check it if you never see any contribution from your spouse as better than your own. Check it if you do not accept the correction of any sort from your spouse or from people. Check it if there is nothing wrong with anything you do but everything is wrong with what your spouse does. I pray that God will give all of us the wisdom to make our spouses happy, better and not bitter. Love you.
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