As part of the Safer Internet Day this month, I held a session for parents on what to consider before their children become heavy users of social media and digital media. I will be sharing some essential things to consider concerning “when” to give a child a smartphone and how to keep children safe online.
In today’s digital age, it’s becoming increasingly common for children as young as five to have smartphones. However, some critical factors must be considered before you hand over that device. Being well-informed and prepared to navigate the challenges of giving your child smartphone access is crucial as a parent.
One key aspect to remember is that smartphones and the corresponding access are designed to capture and hold our attention. They are intentionally built to be addictive, manipulating human emotions and driving us to spend more time on them. This is especially true for children, who may be more susceptible to these effects. Understanding the potential impact and taking steps to mitigate any negative consequences is essential.
How ready are you to be a digital parent?
Instead of asking if your children are ready for smart devices, the question should be, “Are you, as a parent, ready?” Giving your child a smartphone comes with the responsibility of monitoring their usage and ensuring their safety in the digital world.
To begin, consider implementing parental control software on your child’s device, allowing you to monitor and control their access to various apps and content. You can then set rules and limits based on your family’s needs. For example, you may restrict video games or social media access until a specific time of the day. These rules can be established through the parental control software, providing a framework for responsible device usage.
However, it’s important to remember that open communication with your child is vital. Engage in a conversation about the privileges and responsibilities of owning a smartphone. Explain that the software you’re installing supports and protects them online. By involving your child in the decision-making process, they will better understand the reasoning behind the rules.
Basics of digital well-being
Digital hygiene is another crucial element. Avoid allowing your child to have unrestricted access to their device. Establish designated periods for device usage and encourage healthy digital habits, such as not using phones overnight. The temptation to use smartphones at night can disrupt sleep patterns and impact overall well-being. Consider implementing a “digital bedtime” for the entire family, where all devices are turned off and turned in at a specific time. This will go a long way in promoting quality sleep for everyone.
In addition to time restrictions, control the apps your child can download. Set rules that require them to seek your approval before installing any new apps. This allows you to assess the appropriateness of the app based on age. In addition, this can encourage meaningful conversations about the specific app and digital safety. Remember, digital parenting requires consistent monitoring and guidance.
Specifying time restrictions for individual apps when setting limits is beneficial. This level of granularity encourages your child to use their smartphone in a balanced and responsible manner. You can promote mindful usage and minimise excessive screen time by allocating specific time slots for different apps.
In conclusion, before giving your child a smartphone, it’s crucial to be well-informed and prepared. Start by understanding the addictive nature of these devices and the potential risks associated with unrestricted access. Next, implement parental control software, establish clear rules and limits and openly communicate with your child about responsible smartphone use.
Remember, as a parent, you play a vital role in guiding your child’s digital journey. By prioritising their safety, setting boundaries, and maintaining open lines of communication, you can help them develop healthy digital habits and navigate the online world responsibly.
Wishing you a successful and mindful approach to introducing smartphones to your children.
Contributed by Yetty Williams, Digital Parenting Coach & Founder Lagosmums.
