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Overcoming the fear of failure


Fear is a subconscious response induced by a perceived threat, which causes a change in our behavior. While it is a negative emotion, it is also a limiting belief that can be uncomfortable and crippling. We have two classes of fear – “Pathological Fear”, which is also known as phobia and the “Everyday Fear” that stops us.

The issue of being afraid is a product of the mind. There is no room for fear when we respond to that which is present and not imagine something that does not exist.Once the limiting belief is gone, there is nothing you cannot achieve. Overcoming fear opens a person up to limitless opportunities and reveals different things about the individual that he or she can do and accomplish. Most fears people experience has to do with negative and contemplative thoughts, which keeps running through the subconscious. Causes of fear can include: the unknown, success, death, failure, physical harm and much more. In reality, once we understand what our fear really is and change our mindset towards the things we perceive as ‘fearful”, we can fully realize our potentials. Below are 4 facts about fear.

1. FEAR IS HEALTHY: Fear is hardwired in your brain, and for good reason. The feeling of fear is neither abnormal nor a sign of weakness.The capacity to be afraid is part of normal brain function. In fact, a lack of fear may be a sign of serious brain damage.


2. FEAR COMES IN MANY SHADES: Fear is an inherently unpleasant experience that can range from anticipating the results of a medical checkup, to hearing news of a deadly terrorist attack. Horrifying events can leave a permanent mark on your subconscious, which may require professional help.

3. THE MORE SCARED YOU FEEL, THE SCARIER THINGS WILL SEEM: Through a process called potentiation, your fear response is amplified if you are already in a state of fear. When you are primed for fear, even harmless events seem scary. By watching a horror movie, a tickle on your neck (caused by, a loose thread in your sweater) will startle you and make you jump in terror.

4. FEAR DICTATES THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE: Actions motivated by fear fall into four types—freeze, fight, flight, or fright. Freeze means you stop what you are doing and focus on the fearful stimulus to decide what to do next (e.g., you read a letter that your company will be laying off people). Next, you choose either fight or flight. You decide whether to deal with the threat directly (tell your boss why you shouldn’t be laid off) or work around it (start looking for another job). When the fear is overwhelming, you experience fright: You neither fight nor flee; in fact, you do nothing but obsess about the layoff, complain, but you take no action.

Confronting your fear is one of the important things a person can do for himself in order to be all that he was created to be. Fear is a choice, you choose to either be afraid or confront the situation. What is the worst that can happen? You might not reach our desired goal but you learn and start over. There is no fear you cannot conquer; having this positive mindset is enough to help any individual thrive in everything they do.

Through Life coaching, one can work on these fears and limiting beliefs. Do not let the thought of failure hinder you from pursuing your dreams. Change you mindset and change your life.Be Dynamic! Be in charge of your emotions; be all that you are created to be. Sign up for the Emotional Intelligence and Conflict resolution class, which takes place from the 23rd to 24th June 2018. For more enquirers, give us a call on 08077077000 or send an email

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Lanre Olusola
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