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What is your self-esteem quotient?

By Lanre Olusola
24 February 2022   |   4:04 am
In my previous article, I promised to make available my self-esteem quotient test for free. This is the first step to developing and improving your self-esteem. Take the quick self-esteem quotient test now: On a Scale of 0 - 10 (0 meaning Not True and 10 meaning Absolutely True about me) answer the following questions…

Lanre Olusola

In my previous article, I promised to make available my self-esteem quotient test for free.

This is the first step to developing and improving your self-esteem.

Take the quick self-esteem quotient test now:

On a Scale of 0 – 10 (0 meaning Not True and 10 meaning Absolutely True about me) answer the following questions sincerely.

Q1. I have a negative attitude, feeling and perception towards criticism and mistakes.
Q2. I beat myself up mercilessly when things seem to go wrong.
Q3. I ask myself “why me” questions when seemingly negative and undesirable things happen to me
Q4. When treated wrongly by others, I am not gentle or loving with myself and I often blame myself.
Q5. I am the first to judge, abuse or put myself down.
Q6. I tend to derive my value from the possession of things, money, how I behave and how I look and dress which in my opinion should be a certain way as accepted by the society.
Q7. In the work place I derive my value from how much money I make, bring in, raise for the company and being promoted and what I earn at work becomes a measure of my self worth.
Q8. I seek co-dependence on people, sex, alcohol, drugs, achievement, work, busyness, my spouse, men/women, my children, my family even friends to fill the void or give myself a sense of value.
Q9. I feel lost, powerless, helpless, lack control and I blame myself for not being good enough.
Q10. I feel useless, I accuse myself of having something wrong with me and I am critical and hard on myself in crisis or in the face of the tinniest difficulty.
Q11. I believe the worst of myself, thinking, saying and believing negative things about myself in comparison with others.
Q12. I think of myself as bad, always falling short of my own and other people’s standards.
Q13. I question my own opinions, intelligence and I think my views and thoughts are less valid than those of others.
Q14. I think of myself as “less than others” and others as “more than me”; “having much less than others” and others “having much more than me”.
Q15. I often compare myself to others, in terms of looks, status, position, possessions, personality, acceptance by society, qualifications in all ramifications, etc.
Q16. I often see others as more loving, happier, kinder, more emotionally stable and balanced than me.
Q17. No matter what I do, I tend to judge myself as insufficient, inconsistent and incompetent.
Q18. When I do not get what I want, I tell myself I am not deserving, that I could have done more or I am simply inadequate.
Q19. I don’t accept and love myself just the way I am, with my many weaknesses and issues.
Q20. I don’t give myself enough credit and permission to succeed and excel.

Now Total Your Scores.

Here is the meaning of your total scores.
If you score between
200 – 160:
You have an Extremely Low Self Worth & Esteem (This is Extremely Low and needs immediate Coaching/Therapy)
159 – 120:
You have a Very Low Self Worth & Esteem (This is very Low and needs immediate Coaching/Therapy)
119 – 100:
You have an Averagely Low Self Worth & Esteem (This is low and needs improvement)
99 – 70:
You have an Averagely Good Self Worth & Esteem (This is Very Okay)
69 – 40:
You have a High Self Worth & Esteem (This is Very Good)
39 – 0:
You have an Extremely High Self Worth & Esteem (This is Great)
9 – 0:
You have an Absolutely Extremely High Self Worth & Esteem (This can be Great or VERY BAD – Bad In the sense that you may be VERY PROUD AND SELF ABSOLVED).

Here are some more of the consequences of low or lack of self-esteem;
– Emotional and mental struggles with oneself
– Struggles with shame, fear, acceptance, etc
– Unhappiness, sadness, depression, etc
– Frequent confusion
– Being overwhelmed
– Unhealthy relationships and dependence on/in others and things for your happiness and contentment
– Lack of productivity
– Lack of creativity
– Fear to take risks
– Self doubt
– Inferiority complex
– Lack of courage to live life to its fullest
– Lack of Focus
– Feelings of rejection
– Avoidance of close relationships and opportunities.
– Negative response to loved ones (In anger, irritation, defensiveness etc)
– Inability to express oneself and one’s true feelings
– Susceptibility to hurt, pain and suffering
– Physical health challenges such as digestive disorders, palpitations, panic attacks, high blood pressure, etc
Which of these are you struggling with?
Now that you see yourself in this mirror, what next for you?
Follow these 20+ quick hacks to develop your self-esteem.
– Be realistic in your choices and take it one at a time; see each success as a step in the right direction. Small changes add up.
– Enjoy yourself. Put effort into making life pleasurable and satisfying.
– Learn something new; it might be something you have always wanted to know, or even something you never thought you could do.
– Eat regularly and healthy; if you need to go on a diet, do so but let it be your choice
– Exercise regularly; fitness and well-toned muscles can give confidence and help you feel good about your body and yourself.
– Pay attention to your poise, how you stand, sit and walk.
– Think tall and stand tall with your chin constantly high up.
– Pay more attention to your appearance and looks; dress well, pamper yourself, go shopping.
– Choose a new hairstyle, clothing, styles and colours that suit and complement your body shape, scale and personality.
– Buy magazines, books or go for seminars that give advice on personal presentation.
– Do something you particularly enjoy but don’t often get around to.
– Always have kind things to say about people, including you. Watch your internal communication, think and say only positive things.
– Avoid as much as possible situations and people that leave you feeling bad about yourself and spend more time concentrating on experiences which are likely to be successful and rewarding.
– Do not assume you are not important; everyone needs somebody.
– Be genuinely nice, volunteer to help, and pay others compliments.
– Do something good for someone else, especially the poor, the less privileged, orphans, etc.
– Take responsibility for your own actions and reactions to other people’s actions: as we cannot change other people, we need to focus on changing our attitudes towards other people.
– Act now! Do not be afraid to do certain things; try them. You might be wrong in feeling that it is too advanced for you.
– Do not down play your achievements.
– Celebrate yourself.
In conclusion:
A healthy self-esteem can be cultivated by changing our beliefs, perception, thoughts and words – We MUST believe that we are valuable and good enough.
True self esteem is not based only on situations of performance.
So always say to yourself, “I am good enough even when I make mistakes and perform poorly; I value myself even when others don’t”.
A healthy self-esteem means to think and feel as if you have innate, inherent value
that does not depend on behaviour or external circumstances.

Begin to take failure as feedback and turn it into positive learning experiences and growth opportunities.

Again, enjoy your Valentine Season!!!


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