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Your beliefs can create your reality


Lanre Olusola

Why do some people have a succession of abusive partners? Why do many adults suffer with addiction problems despite having seen the devastation it caused in their family when growing up? Why do people attract only negativity in Life?

Acquired in the course of your life, your beliefs act like filters through which you view life. They determine your focus, what you pay attention to, what passes you by, the level of clarity with which you perceive and evaluate experiences, your perspectives on events and the coloring of your interpretations. But beliefs are more than just filters. They are active energies of deep influence.

In a subconscious process, they energetically draw into your life situations and people that confirm the beliefs you hold about yourself and others.


This is because the subconscious mind works with ‘pattern recognition’ and runs its established programmes over and over.

Here are two ways that your beliefs really can shape your reality:
1. Your beliefs influence your behavior: One of the most basic ways that beliefs can shape reality is through their influence on behavior.

For example, if you believe that you are capable, competent, and deserving of your dream job and position, you are probably more likely to notice and seek out opportunities that could help you get there. You are also more likely to perform well in an interview.

Contrary to the common assumption that overconfidence can backfire, research suggests that it may actually be beneficial: Confident people tend to appear more socially skilled and higher in social status, even when those evaluating them have access to objective information about their actual ability.

2. Your beliefs influence other people’s behavior: Your beliefs can shape your reality not only by influencing your own behavior, but also by influencing other people’s behavior towards you, from close relationship partners to complete strangers.

Example: When you believe only negative things, they affect your self-esteem, your choices, your happiness, and your general outlook in life.

You subconsciously give out that energy, which people around you can feel, and without knowing it, they start treating you as such. This is because as the saying goes “ You are what you think.”


Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) deals with understanding and developing the language of the mind.

“NEURO” refers to the nervous system where our experiences are received and processed through our five senses.

“LINGUISTIC” represents the language that we use, both verbal and non-verbal. “PROGRAMMING” refers to our ability to discover and use the programs that we all mentally run. I

n summary, NLP looks at how you think, speak and behave, this is because the output which you are currently getting in your life is as a result of what you think, speak and behave.

In order to understand “How and Why you are getting what you are getting” that is where NLP comes in. To change your outcome it is important that you change your thinking.

The core of NLP studies the structure of subjective experience, particularly that of excellence.

It is the study of what you currently are like and how well you do what you do. This is the essence of Neuro Linguistic Programming.

It is a process of understanding our own selves by observing and understanding the world around us (or vice versa), with a new set of very successful tools and techniques.

Beliefs inform and motivate actions. So, we ought to work as hard as we can to insure that our beliefs are accurate.

Be willing to continuously subject your beliefs to reexamination. Do it for yourself. Do it for your children. Most of all: do it for all those you come in contact with who are affected by your beliefs.

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