5 tips to get over your Ex after a breakup

Breaking up with a partner can be a tough pill to swallow, especially in Nigeria where relationships often run deep. The emotional rollercoaster of sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, and loss can be overwhelming and sometimes draining. In the digital age, the constant temptation to stalk your Ex on social media can make moving on even harder.
If you’re struggling to let go of a past relationship, here are five practical steps to help you heal:

Turn a busy bee

One of the best ways to stop overthinking about your past relationship is to engage in various activities and make yourself busy. Set a goal and work for it, stay focused and don’t give yourself time to dwell on thoughts of your ex. Achieve your life goals and these achievements will help you boost your self-esteem and move on from your past.

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Engage trusted friends or relatives

Our friends and relatives are our unpaid therapists, they know us inside out and can help us move on from the past. If you’re having a bad time, share your problems with your friends or loved ones. They might not know all the answers but will surely support you in your difficult phase. Make plans for a party or a simple outing with your pals which will help you move on faster.

Allow time to heal

The biggest mistake that most of us make is to start looking for a new partner immediately after a breakup. But that’s not healthy. Until and unless you’re completely healed from your past, your future relationships cannot evolve. Don’t get in a hurry, give yourself some time and space to heal. Use this time to work on your emotions and grow yourself as a person so you can do better in the next relationship. This is important so you don’t release the hurtful emotions on your previous relationship on the new one.

Limit contact with your Ex

You have to accept that being ‘Just Friends’ with your ex after a breakup is not healthy. He didn’t value the friendship then, so he won’t still value it now that you two are separated. To move on from your past you need to limit communication with your Ex as it will eventually hurt you. Do not stalk them on social media or try to know details about their life. It can be difficult doing this but it’s the best decision to make.

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Give love a second chance

It hurts so bad when you see that the person whom you have built your world around turns back and demolishes everything with a single action. Life happens, heal up and move on. Allow yourself to be loved again. The fact that a relationship failed does not mean love failed. Give love a chance and be sure to meet someone who will respect and treasure you as it should be.