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Beware of Divorce Month- 3 Q’s to ask before pulling the trigger

By Guardian Nigeria
12 January 2016   |   4:56 pm
 Divorce seems to be an acceptable solution to many unhappy marriages across the globe. Many of those who do divorce are disillusioned and suffer a horrible separation from their spouse. A majority of husbands and wives reach a point in their marriage where they ask “should I divorce” Hopefully, those of you who are still…

 Divorce seems to be an acceptable solution to many unhappy marriages across the globe. Many of those who do divorce are disillusioned and suffer a horrible separation from their spouse. A majority of husbands and wives reach a point in their marriage where they ask “should I divorce” Hopefully, those of you who are still contemplating this question will read this piece and get ideas of things you need to consider before taking the big step. The decision to divorce is critical, with consequences that can last a lifetime. It is a step that should be thoroughly thought out before taken. According to Irvine divorce attorney Scott Finkbeiner, “Divorce filings always spike in January and February — the filings from people early-year are usually people that wanted to file but just waited through the holiday”
Marriages get tested, and it’s OK to get scared. Before you pull the trigger here are some compulsory questions you need to ask yourself.
1.  Why are you seeking a divorce?
Divorce is a very big decision that can change your life forever, you have to think about the good and bad times you spent with your partner, does the good outweigh the bad and is seperation is the best option. You can write down the reasons why you married your husband, are you happy, and can you live without your spouse. You need to have a tangible reason to take this step, and can your reasons be resolved.
2. Have you tried absolutely everything to fix your marriage?

have you tried everything to make your marriage work, have you tried to trash out the problem and can a solution be created. You and your spouse should try to talk about your difference and if its not working out, you should try other avenue, this could mean counselling, mediation or therapy. Communication is key to every relationship, you need to find that comfort zone where you too can understand each other.

3.   Are you prepared for the consequences of divorce?

Filling for a divorce will not only have an adverse affect on you both also people around you. If you have kids, it will really affect the growth and development of the child especially female children. Are you ready for the physcological and emotional trauma and also the change in social and financial status. Who is going to keep the children, are you ready for legal battles about child supports and visitation right.

 

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