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Keep Calm, It’s Infatuation!

Infatuation is an irrational need for somebody, sometimes confused to be love and it’s always short term. People who are infatuated with somebody tend to be so obsessed that they become blinded by their feelings, they only reason through their emotions and seeing just positive in a person and never any negative personality traits.

How to know if you are infatuated?

  • You’d have persistent and intrusive thoughts about one personKeep Calm, It’s Infatuation!
  • The constant thinking or day dreaming often causes emotional distress
  • It causes you to develop some strange character traits spying or even stalk them?
  • You experience intense swings in emotion. For instance, you may feel utter joy or happiness, if you think the person likes you back. Or, feel completely dejected, sad or upset if you don’t get enough of a response from them or think that the person does not like you back.
  • You fantasize about an unrealistic future.
  • A person who is infatuated will typically have romantic feelings for that one person. Also, the infatuated person will want to be the only person for the person they desire.

Tips to overcome an infatuation 

Distinguishing infatuation from love: First, you need to understand the difference between love and infatuation. Infatuation is often mistaken for love. Being infatuated with somebody is not the same as love, love involves knowing a person very well, understanding their positives and their negative flaws. Infatuation is blind, irrational and you can be infatuated with somebody you barely know or have never even met.   Keep Calm, It’s Infatuation!

Re-examine the reasons for the way you feel: Not to sound like a specialist, but infatuations are often about old wounds or about something generally. For instance, a lack of something, a rejection from someone, a lifestyle or luxury you weren’t privilege to access, emotional and relationship vulnerabilities that might encourage a setup of infatuation of another and so on. So in a case like this, understand what is happening to your brain when you feel that way. For instance, when an infatuation starts, your brain starts to produce dopamine which is a natural stimulant, it changes the wiring in our brains, it also increases the body’s production of adrenaline–the effects on our brains has been described as similar to the effects of cocaine.

Discover almost everything about the other person: If you make up your mind to spend a lot of time with the person you are infatuated about, have enough talks, and do enough things together, you might finally, based on what you see, begin to be real to your true self. You would ask some questions which will help you draw lines between what you feel in the real sense. Questions like; does this person seem like a person who would be well suited for me, and whom I would be good for? Does this person share the same interests, goals, values and lifestyle that i do? Does this person bring out the good side in me? Or is my interest all about the chemistry? Find out what is driving you!

See the truth about your differences: Often you will start to fall out of this stage of infatuation once you have gone through all of the possibilities of planning a life together and notice the reality of the situation. For example, you know that you love to be dedicated to the things of God and the other person doesn’t. Maybe you thought that you could work through this, but as time went on, you start to see how much more important this is to you than you thought.

Once you have enough facts to know whether or not the person you are infatuated about really loves you or not, or share similar interest with you or not, etc. you will begin to leave the infatuation stage. Over time, even the most infatuated person will start to pick up on the patterns that they have gone through in the past. This accumulated experience will help the infatuation period come to an end!
It is also helpful to know that when we develop an infatuation for somebody, we actually create an image of that person, an idealistic version of them. However this idealistic person is nothing more than a fantasy, a creation of our own imagination; the perfect person-a person that doesn’t really exist!
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