“And Elisha saw it, and he cried, my father, my father, the chariot of Israel, and the horsemen thereof…” (2nd Kings 2 vs 12).
I talk about my mother than I talk about my father. This is so much I didn’t get to know from him.
Sometimes, I imagine how my life would have turned out if he had talked to me, if he had been the hero I really wanted to be like.
Many young men grew up not having a good relationship with their fathers. Some young ladies are in the mess they are today because their fathers didn’t love them enough.
And as I preach to the men, I encourage them to be who they were meant to be: noble and strong, not just for themselves, but also for their families.
What do we expect from fathers? God says the heart of our fathers should turn to children, and the heart of the children to the fathers. Otherwise, the earth would be CURSED.
To break some curses, that relationship may need to be restored.
The fathers need to be there for their children. Most men complain that because they have to go out and get money, they don’t have time to be at home and let the children know them through personal interactions.
Please, see your children often; call them often, even if you are away. Don’t leave the children in the hands of their “able” mother alone. There is a reason why God made man the one who produces the seed.
Those children need you around them; you need know their school, their friends, their games, and their lives.
Leave an inheritance for them. This world is a strange place for them. They have not been here before.
Parents know there is hardship in the world. Save up for them. Provide things that will secure their future, in case something happens to you.
Don’t leave them to speculation or mere chance.
Show them you love them. Tell them. Send your children text messages on their birthday. Celebrate them. Hug them often. Show care when they are sick.
Don’t give up on them when they are going through teenage crisis or have behavioural problems. Help them.
Pray for them often. When they come to mind, wish them a blessing. Never curse your children.
The curse of a father is powerful; please save them the peril of going from one place to another looking for deliverance.
Pray that their flight won’t be in the winter. Pray they won’t be deceived or fall into the snare of an enemy.
Command them to serve the Lord. Teach them by example and precept. Buy them Bibles and Christian movies.
Let them know that sin kills. Let them know the fulfillment in serving the Lord. Don’t ever encourage a worldly approach to anything. Let your stand on integrity be well known.
Follow up on their behaviour and reports. Let them know they belong to God.
Be their hero. …And he cried, my father, my father, the chariot of Israel and the horsemen thereof…(2 Kings 2 vs 12).
We don’t work hard for ourselves alone. We don’t pursue dreams or goals because of what we want to make of ourselves.
Averagely, any man can feed himself and live comfortably. Many of our efforts to excel, be entrepreneurs, leaders or mentors is for the people we love; the people whose destinies would be shaped by what they see us do.
Let us live right, behave well, be modest, discipline, courteous and honest for our children. We don’t train our children with the rod; we train them by being example to them.
Children will grow up to tell their friends and their own children what their fathers told them. What would they say about you?
Don’t provoke your children to anger, bitterness and rancor. Be careful what emotions you stir in your children.
Let them leave: All children do. They may leave your house, but they won’t leave your heart.
If they leave, they want to demonstrate what you have taught them. When they leave, you don’t leave.
Pray for them. Call them often. They may go out into a few countries, but you remain at home. Stay where they can find you. They would need you; they will come home.
As we get into marriage and giving birth to children or becoming fathers to children, let us not forget that we are starting a new generation.
We need a home. The prodigal son went back to the father after his adventures. The father was at home waiting for his son.
See, a woman may build a house, but the father makes a home.
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