Never plan a future with people who don’t have future plans
“Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people”— Anonymous
Planning your future is pointless with people who don’t have future plan, so never plan a future with people who don’t have future plans. Some people are just okay living permanently in the present; they don’t have the big picture of the future. It is impossible to feature in a future that you cannot picture. Never build your life around a man without future plans.
One of Nigeria’s most respected and eminent men of God, Bishop Francis Wale Oke, said: “Nobody must be the reason why you fail in life.” It has been spiritually and psychologically ascertained that when a man fails in life, his friends and associates are the first set of suspects.
One of the marks of great leaders is the ability to surround themselves with very competent people. An authentic companion and associate must be willing to ‘hurt’ you with the truth, but never comfort you with a lie.
Kevin Eiken Berry said: “Look carefully at the closest association in your life, for that is the direction you are heading.” John C. Maxwell captured it better and succinctly by saying: “Your network determines your net worth.” One of the infamous Roman emperors and last emperor of Rome, Emperor Nero, blundered his way to oblivion by surrounding himself with people and advisers that were not in harmony with people’s hopes and aspirations.
Ancient sources confirmed that when the young emperor surrounded himself with Rome’s brightest minds, including the great philosopher, Seneca, the result was five years of exemplary government. But the moment he chose a wrong detour in bringing in intellectual invalids, his empire fell like a pack of cards. A pathetic summary of the emperor’s reign reads: “Nero, the emperor that fiddled while Rome burned!” Our company will ultimately determine what accompanies us in life.
Not everyone you lose is a loss. Trying to keep people in your life when they have overstayed their season of relevance in your life can be seriously inimical to your growth. There are some sets of people you must avoid planning your future with. No matter how seemingly important they are, they will eventually bankrupt your future.
Never Plan Your Future With Shallow-Minded People
Life is deep and simple, that is why we must never plan our future with shallow and complicated people. Eleanor Roosevelt said: “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
You cannot have deep conversations with shallow-minded people. Shallow minded people are unable to see beyond their nose. Never plan your future with people who cannot see with anything other than their eyes. Don’t say deep things to shallow people and don’t talk about shallow things with the deep people.
The price of shallow conversations may be a corresponding loss of capacity for deep thinking.
Never Plan Your Future With An Insecure Person
The greatest threat to your future is an insecure companion. An insecure person will always short-circuit your growth and advancement simply because he or she is threatened by it. An insecure person will always ruin other people’s happiness just because he or she cannot find his or her own.
Baylor Barbee said: “Relationships fail because people take their own insecurities and try and twist them into their partner’s flaws.” Insecure people would always put an unhealthy demand on you. Their unhealthy demand for excessive validation and attention can cripple you emotionally.
Insecurity would make your partner compete with you, instead of complementing you.
Never Plan Your Future With People That Always Find Faults In You
You would definitely need sincere feedbacks from people, but not from people with keen eyes for faults and psychologically blinded to the ‘goods’ in others. Spend more of your time with people that help you find solutions and remedies to problems, not faults.
Never Plan Your Future With People That Don’t Know Their Worth
When you plan your future with people that do not know their worth, they would eventually infest you with ‘worthlessness.’ People that don’t know their worth would always settle for less and also help you do the same.
Never Plan Your Future With People That Don’t Have Inner Drive
Life is not about what you drive, but what drives you. What drives people matters. When you plan your future with people that lack inner drive, they would bankrupt you in your journey of destiny fulfillment. The world is moving so fast that it is only people that are driven from within that can catch up.
When a man is driven by values, things of value would ultimately come to him.
Never Plan A Future With Some That Cannot Picture The Future
You cannot feature in a future that you cannot picture. There are some people that are just unable to conceive or picture the future you are planning with them. Many dreams have been stifled and many latent potential perpetually buried just because some people planned their lives with people that lacked the ‘big picture’ view.
Never Plan Your Future With People That Cannot Tell You The Truth
Great people surround themselves, not only with people that say what they want to hear, but also with people that say what they ought to hear. To finish strong in life, you would need people that can always give you sincere feedbacks, even when it is hurtful.
Andy Stanley said: “Leaders who don’t listen would eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing to say.”
Never Plan Your Future With Negative People
Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life. When the wrong people leave your life, the right things start to happen.
Tom Ziglar said: “Negative people don’t want solutions. Solutions mean they have to work to find something else to be negative about.” Negative people have problems for every solution.
Never Plan Your Future With People With Bad Attitude
Thomas Jefferson said: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” No matter how buoyant you are, staying around someone with bad attitude can significantly bankrupt your life.
The greatest liability in life is a bad attitude. A man with a bad attitude is a liability to himself and every other person around him. Zig Ziglar said: “A bad attitude is like a flat tire; you can’t go anywhere until you change it.”
Never Plan Your Future With People That Cannot See Your Worth
Your value does not decrease based on someone else’s inability to see your worth. Try spending more time around people that affirm your worth and help you nurture your potentials. I have often said that when you learn how much you are worth, you would stop giving people discounts.
Tim Fargo said: “If you want to improve your self-worth, stop giving other people the calculator.” To avoid emotional trauma before they happen, we must constantly detoxify ourselves from four categories of people. Eliminate anyone who constantly lies to you, disrespects you, uses you and puts you down.
Don’t go into the future with a ‘liability.’ Go into the future with people that would add value to you and increase your worth. You would need people that believe in you; people that invest in your dreams and goals; people that would bring the best and not the stress out of you.
Mark Twain said: “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate. Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives. Similarly, be that kind of a friend for your friends.”
You must be willing to let go of people that are short-circuiting your growth and progress. The wrong people are not necessarily bad people; they may be good people that are not going in your direction. Moving with people that are not going in the same direction, as you would greatly set you back in life. Look out for people of like-minds and like-values. Don’t follow people blindly.
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