Adewale blames parents for social vices

To avoid failed marriages and wayward children, the President of Family Booster Ministries International, Pastor Bisi Adewale has admonished church leaders to pay more attention to their families, especially their wives and children.

The marriage expert said that keeping the family in love and unity is the first responsibility God gave to every man before church activities, adding that pastors should uphold it so that it does not collapse.

Briefing the press in Lagos to announce the commencement of the ministries’ programme, tagged, International Ministers’ Family Conference with the topic: “Excellent Family, Excellent Church,” slated for September 15 to 17 at the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Maranatha, Gbagada, Lagos, Pastor Adewale expressed dismay at the level of negligence going on in many homes.

He attributed most of the evil vices such as kidnapping, banditry, armed robbery and youth maladjusted behaviours experienced in the country and in most homes/campuses to parents abdicating their responsibilities.

Adewale who said that most parents are never at home to inculcate the right moral values in their children also accused pastors of lack of intimacy with their wives.

Recalling an experience he had, the marriage expert said: “A woman ran to our office one day and said we should tell her husband to have sex with her. She said that her husband has starved her of sex for three months. When we called the husband and encouraged him to change, the pastor said that it is the devil that is using his wife to demand for sex. The pastor said that God told him to observe prayer and fasting for nine months.

“Our teaching here is that you can observe prayer and fasting for one year, but break it by 6pm and sleep with your wife by 8pm. In fact, what the Bible says is that you must agree with her wife before you embark on any fasting and I think we are reading the Bible up side down. The General Overseer’s wife eventually ran to a mechanic who impregnated her. This story contributed to the reason the church scattered.”

Adewale also advised wife-beaters to desist from doing this, describing the habit as horrible, terrible and not according to God’s will. He noted that wife-beaters have psychological problems and that they should seek help from God.

He called on those in abusive marriages to report to concerned authorities, including marriage counselors for help to avoid dying in silence like the late gospel artiste, Osinachi.

He said: “During this programme, we are going to let pastors know how to manage their famlies and also counsel wife-beaters. We discovered that men who beat their wives learnt that from their fathers or mothers.”