Scripturally, marriage is an institution of God meant for a man and a woman; it is not for boys and girls. However, age, height, wealth, influence, and academic qualifications are not yardsticks for marriage. What is required is maturity in all ramifications, which makes up good standards for marriage. Undoubtedly, there are men who are advanced in age, but not mature enough to build a home!
It is worthy to note that any marriage without God cannot stand. The foundation of marriage is God. He must be involved in every Christian marriage. Therefore, partners who want God to be in their marriage must be born again. This is the starting point of a Christian home. Many marriages have hit the rock and shattered irretrievably because the couples do not have any relationship with God. So, when a tempestuous gale of adversity blows, such marriage nosedives without remedy.
Regrettably, some careless Christians intentionally marry unbelievers, with the hope of converting them afterward. This is carnal wisdom. It is not from God but from the devil, as nobody has the power to convert a sinner, only the Holy Spirit. A believer who marries a sinner has attracted doom to his life and may have sealed his eternal destiny in hell. It will be difficult for a believer who marries an unbeliever to make heaven! The agony and anguish that accompany such marriage are always unbearable and can distract attention and focus from God. The scripture warns against unequal yoke with unbelievers and all heavenly-bound believers must heed this warning!
Physical appearance can be very deceptive in making choices in marriage. The beautiful physique of ladies at times propels some young men into marriage. Unfortunately, such outward appearance and beauty fade with time. Ordinarily, what should form the basis of marriage must be love. Love is a necessary ingredient that makes a marriage stand and lasts long. Young people intending to marry should differentiate between lust and true love. There is a thin line between the two. Many fall into the temptation of lust, especially when they are under pressure to marry. Whatever presents itself at this time is acceptable and mistakes are unavoidable.
Sadly, young people jump around social media in search of partners in marriage. This is the wrong approach to getting the right partner. This is because most of the content in social media is make-believe; they are not real. The implication is that such marriage does not last; it breaks up soon because the foundation is built on deception.
Christian marriage is a unique union, where the love of God reigns supreme. There is openness and transparency between couples; trust; faithfulness and peace. They work together without having any private hidden agenda. A husband or wife does not initiate a project without disclosing it to the other partner. In another word, no partner should take each other by surprise. When properties are bought, it should be a joint decision of both parties and must bear their names. In fact, each of the partners should be the next of kin and not their children. Theirs should be a joint Bank Account, and ATM pin cards must never be kept secret from each other. The reason is that husband and wife are one before God!
Building a Christian home is easy with God. The threshold to it is salvation. God must be number one!
For further reading: Matt. 7:24-25; 1 Cor. 10:4; 13:8-9; 13:1-8; 2 Cor. 6:14-18; Eph. 6:1-7; 5:17-33; John 21:15-17; 21:1-11; MARK 14:50; Matt. 26:58; Matt. 5:22-25; Mark 8:35; 1 Pt. 3:5-6.
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