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Do you still kiss your spouse regularly?


Charles Ighele

My wife, Carol’s parents were quite romantic, but my parents were not. I never saw my father and my mother hold each other any day or tell each other “I love you.” Not that they were quarrelling. When I look back, it is like my mother would have seriously enjoyed my father being romantic towards her.

Carol’s father and mother and my father were born in 1926. But in their old age, after offloading two women and three men, they still kissed each other. They would kiss sometimes, when either of them was about to embark on a journey or about to leave the house for one thing or the other.

They would kiss sometimes as a sign of welcome to whomever of them arrived home from an outing. My wife and I saw them once in a while enjoying pecks or kisses, while we were with them in their living room. They also used to do this in the midst of visitors. Their pet name was “my friend.”


I do not know how much they kissed during the early years and middle years of their marriage, but I know they kissed towards the last quarter of their stay here on planet earth.

The aim of this write-up is to wake up couples to work on the kissing department of their relationship. You will not enjoy the hundred fold benefits of marriage, if the kisses are rare or are no more. Songs of Solomon 1:2 says ‘let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth for thy love is better than wine.’

Findings have shown that couples kiss less as the years of their marriage increase. The average couple begins to experience decline in their level of kissing after pregnancy, but as the years go by, they either eliminate kissing or do it without passion.

Today’s article is strictly for those who have the licence to kiss. By this, I mean that you are married.

The lips contain sensitive nerves that pass messages of love, trust and fulfilment to the brain. Kissing makes the other person feel special, loved and fulfilled. It binds. It brings about oneness of spirit, soul and body. It is a powerful flame that is designed to flag off a fire of passion. Marriage is meaningless without a sound mind.

Many wives complain that their husbands stop being affectionate after the first few years of marriage.

There is no law that states that couples should only kiss when they are fulfilling matrimonial duties in the ‘other room.’ Kissing can be done anywhere at any time. Rekindle the fire in your marriage by surprising your spouse with kisses. They may be long and passionate or short and comforting. The important thing is that you do it.

At first, it may not be as interesting as it used to be when you were younger but do it. Practice makes perfect. Kiss each other in love and keep your marriage fire continuously burning. The more you kiss your spouse, the more the fire of the love of your marriage will keep burning.

A congregation was shocked, when a man openly admitted he does not kiss his wife. But he changed his non-kissing lifestyle immediately. You too can deliberately start immediately and keep on doing it daily.

If you belong to the group that has suspended the kissing department of your relationship, you can deliberately resume and make it a daily affair.

In my own case, I love kissing my wife after about thirty-three years of marriage, but there have been days I couldn’t. I will deliberately improve. Let us learn to give our wives “kissiquine.” It cures many emotional illnesses. Love you.

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