Evidence of wrong relationship 2019 – Part 16
Relationship entered into just because you are from the same village or locality: It is so unfortunate that many people are too sentimental about who to marry. There are many young men and ladies, who will not agree to marry anyone that is not from their village, locality, tribe or at least, someone that speaks the same dialect with them. It is not a sin or a problem if God is leading you to a man or lady that meets up with such requirement but what happens when the person is not from the same tribe, village or do not speak the same language with you or when you are not led to someone from your tribe?
On the other hand, there are young men and ladies who will not consider anything spiritual let alone the character, once that man or lady happens to be from their tribe or community. The fact that someone is from your village or tribe does not guarantee a perfect or even a peaceful marriage. That does not mean that the person will love you either. Some even believe that if they marry someone from their village they can easily go back home and report the person whenever they have disagreements. That is nothing but negative thinking, when you already foresee trouble and misunderstanding even when you are not yet married. It is contrary to God’s word to set it as a goal or make it mandatory to choose a life partner from your locality, tribe or community or tongue when you are not actually resident in your community. It is not bad if that is how God decides to lead you but we need to really understand that as children of God we are one with other children of God from other tribes or tongues, as long as, they are born again. The word of God tells us that in this kingdom there is no Jew or Greek, there is no male or female, we are all one in Christ (Galatians 3:28).
In our church, for example, we have some brothers from the Southwest of Nigeria, who are married to sisters from the Southeast. We have Nigerians, who are married to people who are not citizens of this country. We must allow the word of God to help us develop a broad mind. We must begin to see other believers as our brothers and sisters regardless of their tribes or tongues. God is able to connect us with someone from anywhere but we need to trust Him with our lives and especially our future, He has a better plan for everyone, He manages the entire universe, He cannot mismanage our lives. His leading cannot be compared with the opinion of anyone.
Relationship entered into or sustained just by what others would say: it is sad to note that there are people who simply agree to enter into a relationship with another or agree to stay in a relationship that they’re supposed to quit just because of the opinions of others or what people will say. We do not need to be afraid of other people’s opinions once we know we are led by God or once it has become obvious from our investigations or observations that we can no longer go ahead with the relationship. So many young people are not enjoying their relationship but they are just enduring the relationship but some still sheepishly allow it to metamophose into marriage because they are afraid of what people might say if they back out of the relationship. You must realise that you have your life to live.
Your destiny is in your hands. Allow people to say whatever they choose to say. If your decision will help you avoid shame, reproach and regret, it is wiser to do it than to live in fear of what people will say. The same people you do not want to offend now might blame you at the end of the day.
Excerpt from my book “EVIDENCE OF WRONG RELATIONSHIP”
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