Evidence of wrong relationship 2019 – Part 21
Depleting relationship: when you find yourself in a depleting relationship, it is evidence of a wrong relationship.
A depleting relationship is the kind of relationship that drains you of your spiritual fluid until you begin to experience spiritual emptiness. This is a kind of relationship that does not add to you spiritually; rather, your spiritual life goes down gradually, until you begin to experience spiritual dryness. You were living right before, but suddenly, you are now compromising. You were very prayerful before, but now you are becoming prayerless, or probably you used to study the word of God before, but now you find it very boring to study God’s word or praying for fifteen minutes when you used to pray for two hours before now.
Proverbs 27:17 says iron sharpens iron; so also friends sharpen the countenance of friends. If the relationship you are in is of God, it is supposed to challenge you or inspire you and raise you spiritually. It will help you to love God and draw closer to Him.
The word of God says evil communication or bad association corrupts a good manner. It is unsafe to associate with people that can influence you negatively. A good relationship ought to help you to improve in your walk with God, and not pull you back or incapacitate you. How can you be a fervent Christian and you are in a relationship with someone who claims to be a child of God, but he or she is as cold as mackerel, and instead of helping you to resist sin and live a holy life, the person seduces you and plays tricks to bring you down spiritually? That is a signal that you are in a wrong relationship. Anyone who cannot inspire you to love the Lord more is not good enough for consideration. A depleting relationship will drain you of your spiritual seriousness until you become a backslider.
Attention: when you find yourself in a relationship, where your partner has no time for you, or no matter how much you try to spend time with him or her, he or she will still complain that you are not giving him or her attention. In a relationship, we need to understand the difference between quality time and quantity time. Anyone who spends five, eight or twelve hours daily with you to relate with you must be an idle person. You must be very careful about the guy, who has all the time to waste, yet you must be careful too about the one who is always too busy to pick or return your calls. Beware of the one who claims not to have time to reply to your email or too busy to visit you. No matter how busy, we need to find time to spend with the person we claim to love. That, however, may not be quantity but quality time. Quality time connotes full concentration. It may not be very elaborate but is very productive and highly rewarding. When someone seems to be looking for you twenty-four hours, he or she is not realistic and to that extent, the relationship is a wrong one. That kind of relationship will not allow you to develop in other areas of life. You may not have time for anything else. You will find yourself in perpetual pressure, just to please the person by robbing Peter to pay Paul. A note of warning here to all the singles.
Excerpt from my book “EVIDENCE OF WRONG RELATIONSHIP”
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