21 strategies to overcome marital delay
Today we are looking at the 5th strategy that will enable us overcome marital delay. In our last edition we talked about character which is usually referred to as the inner beauty but today we are going to examine the way we look on the outside. Just as the inner look can affect our marital life, so also the way we appear on the outside.
Be Well Packaged
Although the most important thing is the inner beauty, which is called character, the way you look or appear on the outside also matters a lot. If you must overcome marital delays you must pay attention to your appearance. The way you appear determines the first impression you create in the heart of the opposite sex, and many times you do not have another chance to make the first impression. First impression should actually be the first stage of any relationship which actually determines what follows. If the guy is interested he proceeds to get acquainted with you. You cannot appear shabbily having your hair unkempt, your dress not properly ironed, your socks smelling and your mouth not brushed for a whole day in the name of fasting and you want a sister to give you a positive answer. Even Christian brothers and sisters appreciate good appearance and the way we combine the colours of our dressing because they too have eyes. Mouth odours and body odours can be very irritating; you must do something about it as well.
Many people deceive themselves that they are very spiritual, so they only give attention to their spiritual life, they pray and fast and read bible but they forget that cleanliness is next to godliness. They also forget that marriage is not only spiritual but physical. Lastly, they forget that they are not only spirit being, they are also human or physical and they will not marry “Spirit”. Even a married man or woman who ignores good appearance and refuses to give attention to making him or herself neat and attractive all the time is risking his/her marriage. The spouse may eventually be carried away by other attractive men or ladies outside. There are married men or women who believes that because they are already married no one is looking at them, so they appear carelessly. You must remain attractive to your spouse, you must dress to his or her taste so that you can have peace, harmony and joy in the home. Good appearance enables you to avoid some of the major causes of divorce in marriage. The worse you look, the more attractive others will look to your spouse.
You must not dress in an obsolete or outdated way and look like an old man or woman. You must dress in such a fashion that is neither outdated nor unscriptural. Appear decent, modest but attractive; the way you dress is actually the way you are addressed. You can imagine if a man is meeting you for the first time and saw that part of your breasts are exposed and you also expose your nakedness by wearing transparent dresses. The first impression he will likely have about you is that you are not a serious lady or that you are not looking for a steady relationship or that you are just out to sell your body and make money or that you are a mere, worthless prostitute going around mortgaging your future.
From the scriptures we discovered that people are recognised by their dressing or attire. We have attire or dresses for the prostitutes or harlots. In Proverbs 7:10, the Bible says “And behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot and subtil of heart”. Also in Genesis 41:14 we were also told that Joseph shaved himself before he went to appear before Pharaoh when he asked him to be brought out of the dungeon hastily.
Your dressing can create unusual acceptance in the heart of others. Your dressing can make people repel you as well. We live in the days where many youths have no regard for what they put on. Some ladies move around in miniskirts, transparent dresses and dresses that reveals their shape and nakednessness. Such appearance can be counter productive and are capable of causing marital delay. As much as we need to be attractive we must not be seductive with our dressing. Modesty is key. We must also learn to use the right soap and cream that are most suitable for our skin, for example if your body is oily it will be wrong for you to use oily soap. If you have a dry skin you can also use the soap that is most suitable. Keep your teeth neat, properly brushed at least twice daily, bath properly and possibly twice daily to avoid body odour. You may need to consult experts on the proper way to take care of your skin and your teeth.
Wash your clothes properly and iron them, your socks and under wears must be neat always, your armpit must not be unattended to, use collogne for your body and use deodorant for your armpit. Do not use your teeth to take care of your fingernails. Cut it low and keep it very neat. You must also do your best to remain smart and not sluggish because of excessive weight. You must exercise your body regularly. You don’t have to play soccer or fight wrestling or carry weight to do exercise. According to Hypocrates the father of medicine, the best exercise is trekking. Walk constantly and fastly and sweat the excess calories out. That you are skinny also does not mean you are healthy you need to exercise your body too.
Lastly, you must check what you eat because you are what you eat. You cannot afford to consume hydrogenated fats, sugar and pastries and still live healthy. Check your weight and most importantly your eating habit; take a lot of water daily, take a lot of fresh fruits and vegetables. That will also help you to maintain a good look and fresh skin.
Above all, you must wear a good and beautiful smile always. Frowning of faces makes you look older than you really are and accelerates your aging process. You are not beautiful until you wear a beautiful smile.
Join us as we continue next Sunday.
You are blessed.
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You were in courtship with a man or a lady for 2 years and just a week to your wedding you were reliably informed that your fiancé or fiancee was your Dad or Mom ex-lover. What will you do?
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