Evidence of wrong relationship 2019 – Part 3

Relationship with someone just because of his or her gifts, talent or ability: So many are crazy about some gifts, talents and natural abilities. They cannot just resist a man or a lady that possesses such talents or gifts. For example, some men can do anything to win the love of a lady that sings very well. Some ladies are also crazy about men who are artists, musicians, preachers, comedians, sport men or even as much as one could have flair for those gifts or talents, that alone should not be a determinant factor about who to marry.

Sometimes gift fades away. Sometimes it is not permanent. There were many popular singers in those days that are no more popular today. They used to be celebrated by everyone in those days, but now nobody knows anything about them. If anyone had fallen in love with them because of their gifts and their popularity, then I guess such people would have a cause to regret now that they have become just ordinary men on the street. Do not enter into a relationship with someone just because of his or her gifts, talents or natural abilities. It is not a sin to marry someone who is gifted, but that should not be the motivating factor.

The fact that a man plays soccer or football, or plays keyboard or saxophone in the church does not mean he or she will be playing that for you all the time at home. He or she may be the best singer with several awards, but if he or she lacks good character you will soon be tired of the relationship. Choosing a partner based on gifts and talents is an evidence of wrong relationship, which can lead to regrets in the nearest future.

Relationship initiated by parents just to keep family ties: So many people fall victims of wrong relationships today, simply because they allow their parents to make choices for them or sometimes their parents forces their own choices on them. Although our parents are highly experienced, we must listen to their advice, counsel and warning, especially if one is blessed with God-fearing parents. No parent actually wants their children to make the mistake they have made. God wants us to respect and honour our parents. One of the ways to do that is by listening to them and following their counsels. The Bible says in Ephesians 6:1-3 thus; “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and that thou mayest live long on the earth.” (KJV) see also Ex. 20:12. So many youths become victims in our days, simply because they disregarded and disdained their parents’ counsels. Some will even call parent’s opinion “old School”. Unfortunately, their “New school” philosophy will always lead them into grievous mistakes. By the time they will begin to appreciate the “old school,” it would have been too late for them. We must place great value on the advice of our parents. “Only by pride cometh contention; but with the well advised is wisdom.” (Prov. 13: 10). Most of the time, your friends or your peers cannot be your best counselor. Sometimes, they do not know better that you, they are in-experienced and sometimes they might be afraid of you, so they will not be able to tell you the truth, as they want to maintain their relationship with you at all cost. They would rather deceive you in order to keep you than to lose you by telling you the truth. However, we must also understand that our parents are not to make the choice for us; they are not to decide for us.

Rev. Solomon Ojigiri
Excerpt From My Book “Evidence Of Wrong Relationship”
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