Evidence of wrong relationship 2019 – Part 4
We must not allow them to compel us to marry someone against our will. We need to live right before our parents and before everyone; we need to love and trust our parents, we need to confide in them and let them know everything about our lives, so that they can be able to trust us and advise us properly. Once we let our parents know that we are responsible, they will not be afraid to trust our decisions. Sometimes, some parents, particularly highly comfortable parents, prefer to arrange marriage for their children. They will do their best to connect or link their children with the children of their rich friends and sometimes, compel them to marry their own choice without considering the nature of life or the character of their friend’s sons or daughters. Even some poor parents force their children to marry from the rich homes, so as to be free from poverty, as if marriage is the only way of breaking the yoke of poverty in their family.
Parents must desist from coercing their children to marry someone against their will. They must remember that they will not live with their children after the wedding. Neither does that guarantee the wealth, comfort or the future they desire for them. So many are regretting today because their parents forced them into relationship with someone they do not really loved. You must honour your parents, but you have to make your choice based on the information you have and based on God’s leading. If you choose to marry someone simply because your parents insist on that to maintain their family ties with the man or the lady’s family, you will have yourself to blame at the end of the day.
Relationship where no one is willing to change: change is highly critical if we must succeed in life. A relationship where no one or both parties are unwilling to change is a wrong relationship. No one is perfect, we are still growing and we must be willing to learn. According to Dr. T.L. Osborn “When you stop learning, you start dying.” The proof of learning is in our willingness to change. Anyone who is not ready to change is not learning anything. Dr. Yonggi Cho of Yiodo Gospel Church once said, “Growth means change.” If you are not changing, you are not growing. Someone who is not ready to change is simply not ready to learn. When you find yourself with someone who is not willing to change; he or she is proud, arrogant, self-opinionated and full of himself or herself, it is not safe to marry such a person.
In relationships, there will always be need for adjustment, learning and changing. Until we change, we cannot really make change happen. Often, those who want to force change on others are people who are not willing to change themselves. Do not forget that the only person you can change is yourself. Robert Schuller said, “There are only two people that don’t need to change: A perfect man and a foolish man. I know you are not perfect, so you must be a fool, if you refuse to change.” Do not marry someone who is adamant and incorrigible; someone who is not willing to change. John Mason once said that you either change or remain in chains.
Excerpt from my book “EVIDENCE OF WRONG RELATIONSHIP”
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