Evidence of wrong relationship 2020 – Part 22

We must learn to spend time together in reasonable discussions, prayers, study of the word and books, and not to commit sin or immorality. Be careful not to stay in darkness or behind closed doors with the opposite sex. Run from all appearances of evil. Heb. 13:14 says marriage must be honourable in all and the bed undefiled, because fornicators and adulterers and woemongers God will judge. Anyone who refuse to be satisfied with all the hours you are spending with him or her is not someone you should settle down with, except you have made up your mind not to do any work, but you must be sure that the person will still create time for you despite his or her busy schedule and this must be reciprocal.

No Reciprocity: love ought to be reciprocal. When you find yourself in a relationship where the love or its expression is one sided and not been reciprocated by the other party; it is an evidence of a wrong relationship. For instance, when you find out that you are the only one showing love by calling him or her on phone, sending email, buying gifts, visiting and contributing to the relationship or probably you are the one contributing 95 per cent to the relationship, but the other person is just passive and inactive or he or she only contributes five per cent to the relationship, that can be an evidence of a wrong relationship.

Love is no love until it is reciprocated. No matter how poor you are, you must learn to reciprocate the love your man or woman is showing you. There are many people who receive all manners of gifts from their fiancé or fiancée, but they always assume that their partner does not need to be reciprocated because he or she is comfortable. What they do not realise is that gift expresses how much you love and value a man or woman. You are simply communicating to the person that he or she is in your heart and that you are not taking him or her for granted. When you choose not to reciprocate the love of your fiance or fiancée, you are simply taking him or her for granted and that can be an evidence of a wrong relationship.

Love must not be one sided or else it will be lopsided and scatter at the end of the day. It is true that the man is the hunter and he must be the first to initiate the relationship, but the moment the two of you agree to be in a relationship everything must become reciprocal. We must not leave the other party to be the only one showing love by calling, visiting, giving, and showing love and care. Once you have discovered that you are the only one doing it, you have to be very careful and think of what to do before it is too late.
 
Excerpt from my book, Evidence Of Wrong Relationship.
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