The marriage institution – Part 17
Happy 61st Independence to Nigerians across the world! Our singular prayer for families today is, “Oh, God of creation, direct our noble cause, guide our leader’s right, help our youth the truth to know, in love and honesty to grow, and living just and true, great lofty heights attain, to build a nation where peace and justice shall reign”. We will see our nation committed to the institution of marriage and build stable families for the society. Do you want to be with the love of your life forever? Here are some ways to keep improving on your relationship. And even if you are not married yet, you can start practising these tips to enjoy your everyday life:
Choose to eat healthfully: Researchers have stated that people who consume more fruits and vegetables experience higher levels of mental well-being. You should include these in your diet, for increased energy, to sleep better, and exhibit more positive outlook on life. You must take care of yourself to be the best “you” in marriage. We need to be proactive against unwanted sickness and diseases that can jeopardise our marriages Exodus 23:25.
Make time for exercise: As simple as this may sound, it is important to work out, not just to be attractive to your spouse, but largely to feel your best. Newlyweds who exercise have more self-confidence while clothed or naked, enjoy mood-boosting hormones and are less likely to experience depression. Exercise solo and with your partner: running together or taking an exercise class is a fun way to bond. It is an essential daily guide to achieving the good life I Timothy 4:8
Learn to go down the memory lane of your relationship: Rather than bringing up the past in a wistful sense with such statements as, “why don’t we do that anymore?”, express appreciation for all the ways your spouse has helped you. You could say something like, “I was just thinking about that romantic dinner you planned on our third date. That was really wonderful”. Carefully curated words become an ego boost for your relationship, which shows that you value your partner’s efforts. Complimenting your spouse becomes more important, especially when one party begins to feel undervalued.
Develop bonds with your friends: Quality friendship is a plus to any relationship. You can plan occasional group outings with friends to know each other better. When you integrate well with each other’s social circles, it enhances your intimacy. Also, give your spouse alone time with their pals that you’ve affirmed. Your spouse may be invited to other business, games, or social events. Don’t make them feel guilty about leaving you home alone by pouting and checking in with them constantly, while they are out. Sometimes, you may have separate social events, trust them enough to do the right things and that will strengthen your marital relationship.
Bond with each other’s families: It is a gift to your spouse, when you blend in well with their parents and siblings. Befriend them, give compliments, ask how their lives are going and smile. This can be challenging, especially if you had a hard time during your wedding planning. But learn to let go completely of such notable differences and build bridges of trust and genuine affection Romans 12:18.
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