The marriage institution – Part 7

Winning among married couples begin when each party can recognise, accept, embrace, and celebrate the unique difference between a man and a woman. This can be done by focusing on what God has empowered each party to give, rather than the “benefits,” which marital relationship offers.

The decision to add value to your spouse is the foundation for fulfilment in marriage. Winning in marriage is not achieved overnight. It starts with the basic prayerful selection of your potential mate, who then becomes your ideal spouse with whom you cooperate to work out the marriage.

Developing a teachable spirit as you journey in marriage becomes a non-negotiable decision. Marriage doesn’t offer everything you need in life, but when you choose to help your ideal spouse to meet their needs, you are in turn meeting your needs faster. We are goal givers and not getters in marriage Acts 20:35.

Today, we will first examine the needs of every woman in a marital relationship. Every human has an emotional bank account, which we draw on in relationships. There is a need to consistently make deposits, so we can maintain good credit with our spouses and avoid marital stress when you choose to become an asset to your spouse. The following are 5 basic needs of a woman:
• A healthy self-esteem: Women are treasures in their individual families and should be treated, cherished, and honoured as such. Women should be accorded respect and valued above others with care and affection, her self-esteem should be built with the right words and was found lagging, there should be constructive criticism I Peter 3:7.

Ayo Daniels is a healthy family passionate who writes from Lagos and will love to hear your questions, testimonies, or attend to your counselling needs: ayodaniels@mrlworld.com