Reflection on rejection – Part 1
Nothing last forever, and no event has ever remained a news. They fade with each passing day and soon become history. In life people come and leave; when people leave, they create space for new and possible ‘better spec’ of personalities to come in. How you accept the exit, rejection, reaction of people towards you (vision, desires) determines your progress and impact.
Apostle John’s record about the Saviour reads: “He came unto His own, and His own received Him not. But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on His name,” John 1:11-12.
The scripture is rich with great stories and teachings on rejection. Sometimes it has to do with God rejecting man’s acts or man rejecting God outright or even man rejecting his fellow man. Most times, man’s rejection of his fellow man comes from those very close and near.
In the Bible you discover:
• What men reject might be accepted by God. 1Peter 2:4: “As you come to him, the living Stone — rejected by humans, but chosen by God and precious to him.”
• Men’s rejection does mean God’s rejection. Isaiah 49:15: “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though, she may forget, I will not forget you!”
• Holding a person or institution in low esteem is a sign of rejection. Isaiah 53:3: “He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.”
• When you reject a messenger or an institution, you have also rejected the one who sent or appointed him; or the vision of the place. Luke 10:16 says: “Whoever listens to you listens to me; whoever rejects you rejects me; but whosoever rejects me rejects him who sent me.”
• One can be rejected by close family members. Psalm 27:10: “Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”
• People we look down on at a time maybe those we shall look up to in the future. Psalm 118:22 says: “The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone.”
• God will never reject His people. Psalm 94:14: “For the Lord will not cast off His people, neither will He forsake His inheritance.”
When God says: ‘no’ to our desires and request not with the sense of rejection but to redirect us. This is because we might know what is good for us but only God knows the best.
Beware of expecting so much from man. Jesus knew man, therefore, He never committed himself to man. Living to have people acceptance often times leaves the heart broken as a result of rejection.
The Online Cambridge Dictionary defines rejection to mean:
•The act of refusing to accept, use, or believe someone or something.
• The act of not giving someone the love and attention they want and expect.
• The act or process of rejecting someone or something.
• The act of refusing to accept an idea, suggestion, proposal, etc.
•The act of deciding not to accept someone for a job, course of study, etc., or;
• The fact of not being accepted.
And KJV Dictionary defines rejection to mean:
• To throw away, as anything useless or vile.
• To cast off.
• To forsake. Jer. 7.
• To refuse to receive; to slight; to despise.
• To refuse to grant; as, to reject a prayer or request.
• To refuse to accept; as, to reject an offer.
It could also mean refusal to acknowledge a person or a people. In other words, rejection is other people’s disapproval about your ideas, personality, beliefs, or actions. This can be very disturbing, and traumatic. The thought that we are being neglected and not approved by other people can often times be very painful and emotional to handle.
Rejection could also mean being forgotten, turning the back on, not remembering, the act of abandoning someone, something or an institution based on factors.
Some of these factors could be:
• That you are no longer who you used to be.
• That you no longer give them what they once enjoyed from you.
• That you have become outdated and obsolete.
• That someone or someplace is more preferable.
• That you are no more attractive as you used to be.
• That the environment or nature is longer in your favour.
• That you are now feeble.
• That you are compromised.
• That you are considered substandard based on current demand.
• That you are poorly packaged.
• Venerable Stephen Wolemonwu is the Rector, Ibru Ecumenical Centre, Agbarha-Otor, Delta State.
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