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Why relationship fails – Part 6  


Solomon Ojigiri

You are not supposed to propose to two ladies at a time. You should allow one to turn you down first. You are also not allowed to give your consent to two men at the same time. It is deception, fraud, and unfaithfulness. God wants us to be transparent, so we will not lay a bad foundation for our future.  

Some ladies or guys even say they do not want to keep all their eggs in one basket so that they will not be disappointed at the end of the day. It is not ideal to play pranks; it is absolutely unnecessary. It is better to keep all your eggs in one basket and trust God to help you keep the basket. God has a way of giving you someone much better if anyone fails you or disappoints you. Anyone that fails or disappoints you does not truly know your worth or value, and certainly someone who truly knows your worth and value will come your way by divine arrangements.


There are many other areas where you need to have mutual agreements, particularly in essential areas of life or on fundamental issues. For instance, when it comes to your faith, beliefs, values, and life vision. That is why the Bible says in Amos chapter 3 verse 3: “Can two walk together except they are agreed?” It is true that in a relationship, the opposite attracts. You are likely to get attracted easily to someone who is not exactly like you. This actually calls for caution, because as much as you need someone who sees things differently to complement you, you also need someone who can reason along with you and agree with you in so many areas of life, which will also help you to avoid unnecessary conflicts, quarrels, and misunderstandings. It is very dangerous to go into a relationship with someone who is diametrically opposed to you in every area.

For instance, when it comes to your faith, the word of God says we must not be “unequally yoked together with an unbeliever” according to 2 Corinthians 6.14 to 18. This means that you need someone who believes in God and worship God in the same manner as you. It is not enough to just hear that someone is born again. You must take quality time to study the person and do a proper investigation because anyone can claim to be anything just to get what they badly desire. Even if the person is born again, how committed or dedicated is he or she? You need to be concerned about the level of commitment to God and even to his or her Church so that the person will not bring you down spiritually after you are married. I love what Dr. Myles Munroe (of blessed memory) said on this subject, he said, “Do not be carried away because someone tells you that they are serving God. You must be interested in how they are serving Him.”


The truth is that everyone will tell you they are serving God, but the question is: how are they serving Him? Some are serving God the way they like, not the way God has specified or recommended. Some only serve God when it is convenient for them. Furthermore, you need a man or woman who shares your values and your vision. Here you are; God has given you the vision to help many with your resources or you have imbibed that value of giving succour to the needy. You may never be fulfilled in that regard if you marry a man or woman that is super stingy.

You are a woman who really wants to express your God-given talents and potential. You want to be all that God wants you to be and not just die as a full-time housewife, but here you are entangled with a man who is selfish, jealous, and insecure.

You may never be able to live a fulfilled life. The issue of the mutual agreement should be your priority before you say, “I do.” This will also help you to a very large extent to enjoy a conflict-free marriage. Above all, it helps you to live a life of joy, satisfaction, and fulfilment.

Ikeja Location: Rev. Solomon Julius Ojigiri, Everwinning Faith Ministries Int’l, 31, Oritse Street, Off Obafemi Awolowo Way, Balogun Bus/stop, Ikeja – Lagos, Nigeria, Tel: 08023997277, 08059203554
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Everwinning Faith Ministries Int’l , 73/77 Everwinning Avenue, White Sand Area, Isheri – Osun, Festac extension Lagos.


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