Jealously Jealously!

IT is my dream that every girl values herself and appreciates who she is, so that she will never be jealous of anyone. It is natural to feel a little envious every now and then but when it turns into jealously it can actually be quite ugly. I always tell girls that they are valuable and that they should not be jealous of anyone because they are unique and special in their own right.

Unfortunately there are some girls who have a strong tendency to be jealous of other girls and can actually make their victims life quite miserable. Most of the time, it is not that these jealous girls have less but they just don’t seem to be happy when others are happy. Hopefully the tips below will help cure any signs of jealously.

Be Happy With What You Have

One of the ways of curbing jealously is to be happy for what you have. You might look at someone’s life and wish you had it, but you should truly be happy for what you have. Anytime you feel jealous, count your blessings. You may not have all the material things that Ngozi’s has, but if you have never been sick or never been to hospital then should really count your blessings. I am sure there is something to be thankful for.

Compliment Others

Nothing cures jealously more than complimenting another person. If you feel that green eyed monster rising up just compliment the person that you are feeling jealous of. And you will see that spirit fade away. Faith was lean and had a great figure. But as for Kene, no matter how much food she cut down on, she couldn’t be like Faith and she was very jealous. She was horrible to Faith and called her names. One day she just decided to stop it and complimented instead. She felt much better with herself. 

Be Happy For Others

Another way you can cure yourself of this demon called jealously is by being genuinely happy for others. I always say, ‘ Happy are those who are happy for others’. And that is so true because when you are happy for others you won’t be jealous. Your own victory is round the corner when you are happy for others.

The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

Sometimes girls get jealous of others because they think the other person is living such a great life and you are not. But we don’t know how the other person lives. We just see a snap shot. You might see Yinka turn up to school in a different Mercedes and it looks like her life is just the best but you don’t know what goes on behind closes doors in her house. Don’t be jealous. Just be grateful and thankful for your own life.

Cure it Fast

If jealously is not dealt with it can be a lifelong battle, so nip it the bud before it ruins you. Unfortunately for some girls, jealously has really taken over them. They grow into bitter women. Let me share a little secret. Every human being is going through their own battle. Nobody has it all together. We all have our own personal struggles. Don’t be jealous of any. Run your on race of life and be your best. 

I wish you the very best. 

Author Rita Okoye [email protected]  Rita is passionate about raising young girls and equipping them with tools that will help them to conduct and value themselves as treasures and present themselves effectively anywhere in the world.

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