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What We Desire From A Partner


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Research that claims to have interviewed enough men and women (to arrive at a study) feels they just might have stumbled on what an average person desires in a significant other.

Starting with women, the study claims that what an average woman desires from a partner isn’t far from the following…

. Women love men that are emotionally expressive (especially with pet names, hugs, kisses, and sweet nothing gestures)…as that tells us our place in his life.


. It further advised… Say “I love you” when you meet and when you say good-bye. Such gestures leave a loved one with fond memories.

. Forget smartphones and their apps. Write her love notes and put them in places where she would not expect to find them, like on the mirror stand, inside her wallet or in her car.

The research also claims that husbands who are handy on domestic tasks have happier marriages, concluding that an average woman prefers men who help out with domestic matters.

It also suggested that doing domestic chores as a couple becomes part of your ‘quality time together’ and leaves more time for romance. I guess it’s safe to say that romance is longer exclusively initiated in the bedroom. The tone can be set elsewhere in the house…yeah?

Men who make efforts to remember and actually mark special dates (anniversaries, birthdays, etc) are an average woman’s pick, the study says.

There are not such many dates to remember: mainly her birthday and your wedding anniversary. But if you really want to be a super husband, remember the date that you first became a couple…most importantly!

It goes on to say that women have a special weakness for men that are quick with gestures that are considered “thoughtful.”

For example, taking the kids out on your own from time to time to give her some space. It can be as simple as offering some time off on the weekend to allow her to sleep in a little bit longer, or as easy as organizing an evening out with the kids or just handling mealtimes with the kids while she attends to her beauty regimen. Or even showering the kids and tucking them into bed.


It’s so beautiful to observe father and kids “time together” that it makes the entire family happy.

It is said that the man who will ultimately have a woman eating out of his palms is that man who can stand full, present and un-reactive in the midst of his woman’s emotional storms. Women find such men trustable and easily “relax” their guard around such men.

Another pointer of the research is that women love men who notice and appreciate our “looking good” efforts. And compliments on our new hair-do and choice of perfume is always a hit. Learn to say something nice about her choice in clothes, for example.

Women desire a man who never lets them forget how important “dating her again” is. Invite her to a movie or a restaurant like you would have when you were dating.

Women have a special affinity for men who are no “tech dummies.” Offer some technical help if she is struggling with remotes, computers or electricals around the house.

Then, comes the banger! Women love men that are romantic. And it doesn’t really have to be all about “buying.”

Thoughtful gestures such as giving her a massage, holding her hand when she is tensed, random text in the middle of the day, insisting she eats out of your share of a snack, playing her favourite music, etc…are all in.

Romance isn’t always about “buying”, it’s about giving. And true romance is in the gestures.


Bring home dinner from time to time as a surprise…just so she has one less task off her shoulders.

Employ positive affirmations with her, e.g. “I trust you.’’…this sentence works miracles in any relationship.

Give her a kiss for no reason. Very few things give fond memories like impromptu romantic gestures such as a hug/kiss that weren’t expected.

Women find men who respect their roots and support system desirable. Stay cool when she is having a long phone conversation or visits with her girlfriend, mom or siblings. These relationships are her emotional support. They are good for you, too. A spouse’s life should not revolve around you; otherwise what you have will lack balance.

Finally, just as women who cultivate an interest in traditional non-women stuff (such as soccer) gets an extra nod from the guys. It is believed that women also find men who make efforts with “women stuff” desirable.

I mean stuff such as… going shopping with her if she asks you to. Consider this quality time. I can’t imagine a sexier setting like a couple engaging each other in gist marathons while on grocery shopping!

To Be Concluded Next Week

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