Love and Relationships  

3 Ways To Avoid Being Friends With Benefits

By Modupeoluwa Adekanye

04 October 2019   |   7:30 am

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So many people have found themselves in situations of unrequited love, where the people they have feelings for do not share the same feelings with them. It could be a very tragic situation that might end up breaking your heart over and over again. It could get worse when you become a friend with benefit…

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So many people have found themselves in situations of unrequited love, where the people they have feelings for do not share the same feelings with them. It could be a very tragic situation that might end up breaking your heart over and over again. It could get worse when you become a friend with benefit with such human you love, you end up being used and hurt. Here are steps to take to avoid being in a friends with benefits relationship.

Avoid sex

Having sex on the first day or too soon after meeting might send the wrong message, mostly that you are only interested in intimacy. Often, sex might mess up your reasoning, while you think you have something “deep” with them, it might end up to be just sex and nothing romantic. Talk things through with them and know what you are getting yourself into.

Get busy

Do not focus all your time and energy on a situation that will lead nowhere. Do not give them too much of your time as they will likely assume that you are desperate for them. They are likely to start giving you less of their attention because they know you will do the chasing.

Keep your options open

Do not put your eggs in one basket until they make things official with you. Do not chase other potential partners away because you are stuck with someone who is not sure about you. There should be no string attached. Go on dates with other people and spend time with other people who value you and want to commit to you. Keep your focus on the people who actually want to have a relationship with you rather than make you their friend with benefits.