Akin Alabi: Marriage Is Overrated
Popular Nigerian entrepreneur and philanthropist, Akin Alabi has taken to Twitter to share his thoughts on the institution of marriage.
The NairaBet boss in his piece opines that marriage is overrated and should be the least of a man’s problems.
In his post, he encourages his followers not to prioritise marriage as according to him, there are many more important things to achieve in life and marriage should only be the icing on the cake after all the achievements have been grabbed.
“Your friend graduates with a first class. You shrugged it off. She got a great job. You were neutral. She posted a holiday picture with her colleagues. You didn’t even take a second look. But when she got proposed to, you started jumping up and down excitedly.
For you, all the progress she made all these years are “normal”. This is the ultimate. She has found a husband. You now like every post. You comment congratulations and go girl on every picture. To you, that is the only thing that matters. She has a man and must hold him tight.
This is the kind of behaviour and attitude that fuels patriarchy. Nigerian men know that for most women, their ultimate life ambition is getting married so they see themselves as gold. They see themselves as the vessel of happiness for women.
Many males do not know that because you have a penis, you don’t automatically become a man. Unfortunately, most women don’t agree. Any man is a man. Dirty, irresponsible, vile, violent… doesn’t matter. They say, at least I have a man.
I am not going to train my daughter to see marriage as the most important thing. I will let her value, health, education, career, finances and other things over marriage. Finding a good man as a partner forever will be icing for her and not the cake itself. She is the cake.”