Veteran Yoruba actress, Dupe Jayesimi, has revealed how her marriage of five years ended in pain and how multiple attempts at conception through IVF failed, leaving her without a child at age 60.

Jayesimi made the revelation during a podcast chat with actress Abiola Adebayo on her show Talk-to-B on Saturday.

“I got married on October 22, 1988. At that time, I had already started acting. But the kind of work my husband was doing then required him to travel, he would be away for two weeks and return after two weeks,” she said.

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She said she became pregnant before the wedding but lost the baby shortly after marriage. This led to several tests to find out why she could no longer conceive.

“We started running tests to find out why I couldn’t conceive again. At one point, I was told I needed to be opened up.”

According to her, she went through the procedure, but her husband travelled for months and returned to tell her bluntly to leave if she wasn’t satisfied.

“I went through the procedure, but as usual, my husband travelled again. this time, he didn’t come back until after three months. When he finally returned, I was angry. But he looked at me and said, ‘Is it by force? You should have left the house.’”

Jayesimi said she reported the matter to her mother-in-law but was left disappointed.

“I went to his mother’s place to report what was going on, and instead of supporting me, she said he went to hustle for money. But his father was a good man. He turned to the mother and asked her, ‘Is that how you should be talking to her?’”

Despite returning home, she said the emotional distance between her and her husband worsened.

“At that point, our marriage was already five years old. His father begged me, and I returned home. But any time we wanted to sleep, he would use a pillow to divide the bed.”

“One night, I called him and asked, ‘What exactly is the problem?’ And he simply said, ‘There’s nothing.’”

She said she later left the marriage after sensing danger.

“It got to a point I realised that if I didn’t leave that marriage, something bad could happen to me. I packed my things and left. I rented a three-bedroom apartment far away from him. But the day I arrived and saw my belongings on the floor, I cried. I felt like I left my marriage too early.”

She said just two weeks after she left, another woman had moved into her husband’s house and was already pregnant.

“I wasn’t someone who drinks before, but that period, I started drinking.”

According to her, the other woman later had two children, but that marriage eventually collapsed as well.

Jayesimi said she later met a man she referred to as “Alhaji,” who supported her emotionally.

“We tried IVF twice, it didn’t work. But we didn’t give up. The time I finally got pregnant, I didn’t even know. I was moving from one movie set to another, thinking everything was fine. But after a while, I started seeing drops of blood every evening.”

“We went to the hospital, and I was tested, I was pregnant. They later did a scan to check why I was in pain. That was when they discovered the baby was growing outside the womb. I cried. Even the doctor cried with me. At that time, I was already 40.”

She said after undergoing surgery, she never got pregnant again. Although her partner stayed with her for years, his first wife later started to cause problems.

“I went through surgery, and since then, I’ve never gotten pregnant again. Alhaji was still trying with me, hoping I would conceive, but his first wife started causing problems. For the seven years I was with him, his wife never visited him, but once I got pregnant, she started making trouble.”

They later considered adopting a child, but her mother opposed the decision.
“At the end, I let Alhaji go. We even agreed to adopt a child, but my mother rejected the idea.”

Despite the years of pain and disappointment, the actress said she continues to hope.

“Till now, I don’t have a child. But I believe that as long as there is life, there is hope. And I also believe that no one will be abandoned or thrown away just because they don’t have a child.”