Expressing Your Partner’s Love Language!
In every relationship, love is universal. We feel it and we see it. The ways of emotional communication can vary significantly from one person to another. The five unique “love languages” determine the level of uniqueness or connection between two people in a relationship. They are the primary reasons behind the “chemistry” found in every relationship and they cause love to grow stronger like binding glue that is hard to separate. Love undeniably is essential and a basic necessity for survival in relationships intending to last forever.
Here is a run-down of the five love languages and how this can be applied in your relationship.
When you reach out with tender touch, you create emotional closeness with your spouse. This is especially true if the primary love language of your spouse is physical touch. Even when you feel you are not a good toucher, you can always learn to speak this love language. It can begin with a pat on the back, or putting your hand on their leg, massage, kisses, pecks, cuddling, warm hugs before heading out etc. After a tough, long day at work, those who feel the most love through touch only want to come home to one thing; their lover’s loving arms. Like a safe haven, it allows you two to find comfort in closeness.
Words of Affirmation
Regardless of whether your partner is a words person, it is important to make verbal affirmation a habit in any marriage; most especially, if your lover seeks words of affirmation as most important. Perhaps you can begin each conversation with a heartfelt comment like; “Hey, Beautiful! You look perfect! Etc., everybody loves a nice compliment. But for people whose actions speak this language, it means the world for them to be called beautiful names whether or not that means putting a little effort to achieving it.
Acts of Service
From washing the dishes to doing the laundry, — the list goes on and on for daily household chores. For this partner, actions speak louder than words, and you get a significant best out of each other when you help out around the house. If you have a significant other with acts of service as his/her primary love language, find out the specific things he/she would like by asking. If you are the person with that specific love language, let your spouse know which actions mean the most to you.
This language comes in the form of gifts. Find out what your partner desires most at the time, and you can always use this to express his/her love language. Gifts like; cards, flowers, jewelry, cloths, etc. are all in this category. Individuals who communicate through receiving gift items adore being showered with boxes of beautifully wrapped gifts, in other words, receiving a thoughtful gift will make them feel that their partner truly loves and cherishes them. Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc., are ideal times to surprise these folks with carefully picked sentimental presents to complement their special days.
Whether it be spending the entire day gazing at each other, time is precious to your partner whose love language is quality time. The very act of spending one’s minutes with their loved one fills up their heart with overflowing joy. A stroll through the park or street, an adventurous journey, a visit to friends, or simply times shared together in the room — are all ways this love language is communicated. It’s all about growing, developing, and building one another up through what they cherish most.
For most people, we use a combination of two to three love languages, or even all of these emotional languages, but we also have specific love language that matter the most to us. Nevertheless, every marriage needs to learn how to apply all love languages as basic ingredients of a happy and lasting home!