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The Pursuit of eHappiness!

A significant number of people have been sucked into the allure of the time consuming phenomenon known as social media.  Amongst other things, it has also become a channel for people in unhappy relationships to find some sort of solace from their pain.  Such individuals live vicariously through the lives of celebrities, engage with content that highlight the short comings of their partners (e.g. raving about people who are more attractive or wealthier or seem more affectionate than their partners), indirectly vent about their relationships and sometimes go as far as fishing for compliments (which should be coming from their spouses) from their online friends and communities.  While this pursuit of ‘eHappiness’ might serve as an escape from the realities of life in general, it sometimes does more damage than good to that which is supposed to be one of the most important sources of happiness in your life…your relationship with your partner!


Relationships are only healthy when both people in the relationship are having their emotional needs met.  It is also important to note that when one individual in a troubled relationship goes off to ‘find’ their own happiness, they increase the chances of making their partner unhappier in the process.  This is what typically leads to affairs, and is one of the reasons why people find themselves in ‘emotional’ affairs with friends or strangers they have only met online.


Even if your online activity does not involve intimate communication with people of the opposite sex, you stand the risk of further jeopardizing the joy in your relationship, based on what type of content you chose to engage with online.  If your relationship (and partner) are truly important, you must consider the following five key questions anytime you choose to share information or consume information online or on social media.


  1. Will this post make my partner jealous or self-conscious?
  2. Will this post reveal there is disharmony in my relationship?
  3. Will this post leave the public with the impression that my partner is not living up to my expectations?
  4. Is this post going to put my relationship up for public scrutiny?
  5. Is my partner in support of me sharing this personal news about our life, with the world?


While social media has numerous benefits, you must also be aware of the risk it poses to the emotional health of your relationship and the ways to manage that risk.  When you are married or in a committed relationship, you have the responsibility to be considerate of the feelings of your partner and should never put personal, short-term pleasure ahead of the long-term friction that your actions can cause your relationship. So the next time you find yourself gravitating towards social media when you are at loggerheads with your partner, make sure you think about these five questions.  Doing so might go a long way in helping you preserve your relationship.


About ZeeZee

ZeeZee is a certified Relationship Coach who believes her purpose in life is to equip people with the right tools for a successful relationship – with themselves and others. Through her website and YouTube channel she shares practical tips and principles that help couples understand the inner workings of a healthy marriage.

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