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Style Diary: Full​ ​of​ ​Dreams 

I​ ​discover​ ​most​ ​of​ ​my​ ​successes​ ​in​ ​the​ ​unsung​ ​and​ ​personal​ ​milestones​ ​that​ ​become​ ​my​ ​defining moments​ ​in​ ​life. ​ ​This​ ​may​ ​apply​ ​to​ ​us​ ​all, ​ ​yet​ ​some​ ​situations​ ​seem​ ​separate​ ​from​ ​the​ ​rest, ​ ​more defining​ ​perhaps. ​ ​I​ ​find​ ​myself​ ​wishing​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​sort​ ​of​ ​human​ ​being​ ​who​ ​seizes​ ​inhibition​ ​and bungee​ ​jumps​ ​into​ ​a​ ​daring​ ​opportunity​ ​or​ ​situation, ​ ​successfully.

More​ ​recently, ​ ​my​ ​life​ ​has​ ​filled​ ​itself​ ​with​ ​innumerable​ ​surprises​ ​from​ ​embarking​ ​on​ ​new opportunities, ​ ​meeting​ ​new​ ​people​ ​and​ ​growing​ ​relationships, ​ ​discovering​ ​new​ ​aspects​ ​of​ ​myself. This​ ​personal​ ​revolution,​ ​of​ ​sorts,​ ​is​ ​the​ ​kind​ ​that​ ​evokes​ ​the​ ​‘yes​ ​man’​ ​spirit​ ​in​ ​a​ ​person​ ​and​ ​quite frankly,​ ​I​ ​welcome​ ​it​ ​with​ ​open​ ​arms.​ ​I​ ​have​ ​since​ ​accepted​ ​my​ ​life​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​box​ ​of​ ​chocolates, because​ ​I​ ​don’t​ ​know​ ​what​ ​surprise​ ​awaits​ ​unwrapping,​ ​thus​ ​it​ ​came​ ​as​ ​no​ ​surprise​ when​ ​I​ ​was asked​ ​to​ ​host​ ​the​ ​​Coffee​ ​Business​ ​Morning​​ ​presented​ ​by​ ​The​ ​Play​ ​Woman. When​ ​this​ ​opportunity​ ​presented​ ​itself, ​ ​like​ ​a​ ​professional​ ​ ‘yes​ ​man’​ ​I​ ​said​ ​yes, ​ ​even​ ​though​ ​I, regrettably, ​ ​gave​ ​only​ ​half​ ​a​ ​second’s​ ​thought​ ​to​ ​the​ ​proposal. style diary

While​ ​my​ ​heart​ ​crumbled​ ​into​ ​small​ ​pieces​ ​to​ ​the​ ​pit​ ​of​ ​my​ ​stomach​ ​at​ ​the​ ​thought​ ​of​ ​hosting​ ​the event, ​ ​in​ ​equal​ ​parts, ​ ​the​ ​elation​ ​of​ ​immediately​ ​knowing​ ​what​ ​to​ ​wear​ ​incited​ ​excitement​ ​that​ ​was rapidly​ ​curtailed​ ​by​ ​a​ ​robust​ ​dose​ ​of​ ​anxiety. To​ ​help​ ​my​ ​case,​ ​I​ ​refreshed​ ​my​ ​memory​ ​to​ ​a​ ​great quote​ ​by​ ​Richard​ ​Branson​ ​that​ ​reads,​ ​“if​ ​somebody​ ​offers​ ​you​ ​an​ ​amazing​ ​opportunity​ ​but​ ​you aren’t​ ​sure​ ​you​ ​can​ ​do​ ​it,​ ​say​ ​yes,​ ​then​ ​learn​ ​to​ ​do​ ​it​ ​later.”​ ​With​ ​this​ ​armor​ ​of​ ​an​ ​advice​ ​strapped against​ ​my​ ​bubbling​ ​anxiety,​ ​I​ ​now​ ​had​ ​enough​ ​mental​ ​space​ ​to​ ​contemplate​ ​the​ ​topic​ ​of conversation​ ​and​ ​what​ ​a​ ​great​ ​opportunity​ ​this​ ​was.


Redefining​ ​Success​ ​for​ ​the​ ​21st​ ​Century​​ ​​Woman​ triggered​ ​deep​ ​contemplations​ ​about​ ​my​ ​personal

journey​ ​to​ ​success, ​ ​more​ ​so​ ​how​ ​I​ ​intend​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​it. ​ ​When​ ​the​ ​speakers​ ​uttered, ​ ​in​ ​passing, ​ ​about such​ ​a​ ​time​ ​in​ ​their​ ​lives​ ​where​ ​the​ ​conceptualization​ ​for​ ​a​ ​career​ ​failed​ ​to​ ​clearly​ ​avail​ ​itself,​ ​​ ​I could​ ​breathe​ ​easier​ ​and​ ​be​ ​convinced​ ​that​ ​all​ ​will​ ​be​ ​well,​ ​and​ ​though​ ​I​ ​may​ ​be​ ​a​ ​damsel​ ​in​ ​career incertitude,​ ​I​ ​won’t​ ​be​ ​the​ ​first​ ​or​ ​last​ ​nor​ ​will​ ​I​ ​be​ ​the​ ​only​ ​one.

The​ ​most​ ​valuable​ ​lesson​ ​lay​ ​in​ ​the​ ​idea​ ​that​ ​success​ ​is​ ​not​ ​a​ ​destination​ ​but​ ​a​ ​journey.​ ​For​ ​so​ ​long I wished​ ​and​ ​prayed​ ​for​ ​a​ ​revolution​ ​of​ ​sorts,​ ​I​ ​wanted​ ​to​ ​see​ ​more,​ ​do​ ​more,​ ​be​ ​more​ ​and​ ​never settle,​ ​therefore​ ​each​ ​day​ ​is​ ​a​ ​day​ ​of​ ​consciously​ ​deciding​ ​to​ ​turn​ ​my​ ​life​ ​into​ ​a​ ​compilation​ ​of positive​ ​decisions​ ​(for​ ​the​ ​most​ ​part)​ ​where​ ​every​ ​feat​ ​is​ ​a​ ​small​ ​piece​ ​of​ ​great​ ​success.

I​ ​now​ ​fill​ ​my​ ​days​ ​with​ ​writing​ ​to​ ​the​ ​tunes​ ​of​ ​undisciplined​ ​inspirations,​ ​creating​ ​new​ ​relationships that​ ​amount​ ​to​ ​great​ ​collaborations​ ​on​ ​the​ ​work​ ​front,​ ​or​ ​great​ ​friendships​ ​and​ ​sometimes,​ ​a​ ​bit​ ​of both.​ ​Of​ ​course,​ ​opportunities​ ​such​ ​as​ ​these​ ​that​ ​choose​ ​you,​ ​and​ ​like​ ​a​ ​good improvised ​skit,​ ​I​ ​remain​ ​a ‘yes​ ​man’​ ​all​ ​the​ ​way.​ ​The​ ​​Coffee​ ​Business​ ​Morning​​ ​beamed​ ​with​ ​major​ ​girl​ ​power​ ​and​ ​sitting​ ​in​ ​a room​ ​filled​ ​with​ ​powerful​ ​women,​ ​empowering​ ​one​ ​another​ ​was​ ​as​ ​inspiring​ ​as​ ​inspirations​ ​come.

The​ ​event​ ​spurred​ ​my​ ​style​ ​towards​ ​the​ ​notable​ ​ ‘power​ ​dress’​ ​with​ ​a​ ​twist, ​ ​a​ ​knot, ​ ​and​ ​one​ ​big​ ​little trick. ​ ​For​ ​when​ ​family​ ​disappear​ ​into​ ​the​ ​ether, ​ ​friends​ ​desert​ ​me​ ​and​ ​all​ ​I​ ​have​ ​left​ ​are​ myself​ ​and some​ ​clothes, ​ ​a​ ​cardigan​ ​will​ ​be​ ​worn​ ​in​ ​reverse​ ​and​ ​knotted​ ​to​ ​the​ ​side.

Sans​ ​the​ ​dramatics, ​ ​I​ ​consistently​ ​venture​ ​to​ ​wear​ ​my​ ​clothes​ ​in​ ​more​ ​ways​ ​than​ ​one​ ​intended​ ​style.

Outfit Details 

Cardigan​: ​ ​Roman

Trousers​​: ​ ​ASOS


Photo Credit: ​ ​@Teemages

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