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SOMETIMES I feel like I’m in a love-rut that I can’t get out of and I know that there comes a time in everybody’s life when they feel as though they are in that same situation.

  It often coincides with a time where for some reason or another, you aren’t meeting anyone new, or those that you are meeting just aren’t your type. Perhaps all your friends are hooked-up, or you just don’t feel comfortable bumping and grinding with a stranger at a joint or hangout spot. Either way, if you want to get out of the rut it’s time to get your behind out there and get proactive.

  Gone are the days of having to go down to the nearest club to meet someone new. Just wander over to your computer or pull out your phone to be amazed at the amount of like-minded people in the same boat. Online dating is a way to maximise your pool of available hunks, so why not utilise it?

  Now, I know many of you will be exclaiming, ‘I’m not that desperate’ or ‘but I’m normal’, but the online dating stigma is rapidly dissolving. Online dating has become one of the most popular means of meeting someone new. Believe it or not, online dating is now the second most common way that couples meet. Whether for serious dating or flirting.

  However, before you jump online and sign up to the first online dating site you see, it’s important to know the facts and decide what audience you’re after. The online dating world is vast. You might find a good-time but not necessarily a long-time, to the ‘Set for marriage’ online dating site, where the end game is clear. For you to get started, you need to know a few facts.

Don’t Be Too Shallow

  When trying to meet Mr right, online, it’s easy to get caught up in the photographs. Don’t be please. Looks are deceiving. Though it is important to have an attraction to someone, it’s not everything. Women have been found to be much more forgiving of small imperfections when meeting someone in person than they are online and in being nit-picky about looks you may be missing the bigger, very suitable picture. You aren’t online shopping for something to wear, ladies. So be serious.

Stick to the ones in your location

  Try to stick to the more local profiles because it is much easier to start a relationship with somebody if they are available to meet up. Although sometimes very lucrative with many online relationships, starting out long-distance is starting on a back foot and can end in wasted time. There is also the danger of falling for the profile and not the person; there is a lot you can be blind to until you meet the person.

The Tone Is Key

  Ignore sweeping claims of personality traits. As a rule, people are unreliable self-reporters. It’s much better to try to gauge the tone of the profile; watch for signs of arrogance, bitterness or over-enthusiasm. It’s best to go for profiles that have a more down to earth feel, or that make you laugh.

Less Is More

  Just like putting on make-up to go out for a date, there are things you can do to make your profile more attractive too. Show a little skin (shoulders, legs or a bit of cleavage), but nothing too provocative, and keep the ‘About Me’ sections short and considered. With more options comes more choices and you can afford to be pickier.

Meeting point

  When it comes to meeting someone obviously it’s important to stay safe. The best way to do that is to choose a meeting point that is central and busy. Having drinks is a nice first date; firstly there isn’t any pressure to stay for a long time and second you can meet in the light of day where lots of people are about. Also it’s wise to tell a friend or family member where you’re going and what time so that they are aware of the situation. Most importantly trust your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable at any point then don’t hesitate, just leave.

  So if that love-rut has you down, don’t worry you now have all you need to know to make your way out of it.


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1 Comment
  • Daniel Shmit

    Everyone wants to fall in love and have their fairy tale come true and there is nothing wrong with that and with dating sites that is possible, but as a newcomer you need to make sure to manage your expectations – meaning that you state what you want and know what the other wants as well, leaving very little room for disappointment. Another tip is before making that click like I did at interracial romance is to come prepared with questions you want answered that way if it does or doesn’t work out, you know that you gave your all and you can walk away knowing you learnt something from it.