Why Am I Still Single?

THIS is one question we all ask ourselves as young ladies at some point in our lives. But we need to know that being single is not a curse. 

  But on the other hand and to really trash out the issue, you are single for just one simple reason and that is because you deserve it! Some women are so annoying. When I hear some of the stuff other women like myself do, I am actually amazed and disappointed. 

  So, in today’s’ newsletter, I will be trashing my fellow women.

  I must admit that I was hesitant about typing that sentence. It felt very harsh and emm… not exactly diplomatic. However, I decided to not sugar coat the truth. If you want consolation, you will get none here. I am fed up with women’s attitude. Women are under the ludicrous impression that they are absolutely perfect just as they are! 

  Almost every women’s magazine or website that I come across tells women the same big fat lie that they are fine as they are and if they are unhappy, then something must be wrong with the world. Women are being cheered off the cliff and I hate it!

  Think about it, women are being told that being fat is alright and that they must feel proud of the way they look. I have actually met several women who thought they looked beautiful but were as obese as cows. 

  Sorry for being blunt here but the truth has to be told. I am not teaching women to be insecure about their looks. Rather, I am telling them to be real. I am telling them to get off the couch and work out.

  Stop watching stupid soaps on that DSTV telemundo channel and go for a jog. Some girls are genetically blessed and some have a fast metabolism. 

  If you are one of those girls, then, congrats. But good looks alone do not guarantee successful relationships. Sure, if you look ravishing, then men are going to want to sleep with you. But that alone does not ensure that they will want to hang around afterwards. 

  You cannot get a man to commit to a relationship just because you are pretty. The novelty wears off after a while! Plus, there are plenty of pretty girls in this world!

  You are single because you are lazy! That’s right. I just called you lazy. You may be doing well financially or you may even work out. But I am talking about a different kind of laziness here. Most women I know are too afraid to challenge themselves on an emotional level. 

  Remember that life truly begins where your comfort zone ends. You have to create your own good emotions by doing the things that put you into a good mood. It sounds a bit vague I know. Let me explain further with an example.

  When a homeless person asks you for money, you probably do not even look at him/her. Even if you do, you grudgingly hand out some change and walk away. 

  However, when a friend has a birthday, you buy some expensive gift and even spend several days thinking about what to buy. Now you tell me, who really needs money, your friend or the homeless person? So why do you even refuse to acknowledge the homeless person? You are probably very kind and help people who are in need. 

  So, why do you avoid the homeless individual? Simply because that person is so disconnected from your reality, that it puts you into a bad mood.

  Now this homeless person is like a leech that sucks away your positive energy while the friend elevates your emotional state. People give money, respect and love to those who already have it, not to those who need it. This is a universal law! Accept that nobody is perfect in this world. 

  Work on improving the things that are in your control and stop worrying about those that you cannot. Go and create your own party! There is no magic recipe for finding a good-looking, kind man who would want to marry you. You just have to be open to experience.

  The moment you begin to need something from a man, you are giving your power away. If you learn just one thing from this newsletter let it be this – stop stifling your emotions! 

  Learn to express yourself freely. Be like a child who is not afraid to show his true self. A child is not insecure. It smiles at strangers, dances to music, sings songs, takes happiness in the smallest gifts of life such as balloons, sweets etc.

  When was the last time when you actively made an effort to meet new guys? Clubbing with your girlfriends and getting drunk does not count, I am sorry. 

  Many women are just waiting for something to happen. They never take the initiative to do something that makes them happy, let alone approaching a guy that they like. They just drift through life like a plastic bag across a field. No wonder they are still single.

  I am asking you to do just one thing, start taking chances! Interact with people whenever you go out. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and acting indifferent, be open to experience and get out of your comfort zone! You will make a ton of new friends. 

  Life will turn into the marvelous adventure that it was always meant to be, so many doors would open up, people in general will love you and so will guys. 

  To the loving, exciting relationship we all deserve, good luck in love and life. Cheers!