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Finding the right partner in marriage – Part 3


James O. James

So far, we’ve seen that finding the right partner will ensure that you enjoy heaven here on earth. We’ve also looked at the fact that there are some basic things that need to be in place before you ever contemplate this very important decision in life.

The next step in finding the right partner after attaining maturity is to discover God’s Will for you. There’s in God’s plan for your life a partner suitable for you and only God can lead you to that particular person.

Some people assume that since the Bible says “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from God,” this means that God does not play any role in your search for a spouse. This position is wrong and unscriptural. If you are a child of God, He’s not only interested in every aspect of your life, but also wants to take preeminence over your affairs.


When it was time for Isaac to marry, his father Abraham was the one who found a wife for him through his servant Eleazar. Little wonder the Bible says Isaac was comforted, when he saw Rebekah, the wife his father got for him.

In our modern society, it might not happen exactly this way. But if you’ll find the right person, you must involve God and trust Him to direct your feet to finding the right spouse. If you are looking for something or somewhere you don’t know, you’ll have to ask people who know for direction. That’s exactly what God wants you to do.

Discovering God’s Will In Marriage
One of the most important issues in Christian living is the discovery of God’s Will. Once you’re able to discover His Will for you, the rest is easy because His blessings follow His Will.

Marrying In God’s Will
Two major factors make it very necessary for you to marry in God’s Will alone. The first factor is the person’s influence upon you, while the second is that it has lifelong consequences.

Environmental Influence
The Bible in 1 Corinthians 15:33 says “Bad company corrupt good manners” and since marriage is the closest of all human relationships, you must be careful who you marry. King Ahab went down in history as one of the worst kings in Israel and his wife Jezebel was strongly indicted for this.“But there was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the LORD, WHOM JEZEBEL HIS WIFE STIRRED UP” (1Kings 21:25).

In your marriage, you will influence and be influenced by your partner. Can it then be over-emphasised that you ensure that the person who will so ultimately influence you be not only a genuine child of God, but also one that is suited for you?
Marital influence is so strong and pervading that it brings to bear upon your eternal destiny.

Marriage Is For Life – Matthew 19:5-6
God designed marriage to last for a lifetime. There is nothing like trial marriage and divorce is not endorsed by God. You do not get married to see if it will work out. Marriage must be contracted with faith, love and determination by the two people involved, and both persons must be prepared to do all it takes to make it work.For enquiries contact: Elshaddai Covenant Church, 7, Social Club Road, Off Charity Road, Abule-Egba. Tel: 08080929292 (Calls only); 08182281184 (WhatsApp messages only).


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