My role as a pastor’s wife in church and society – Part 2
You must be prayerful. Consistent heartfelt prayer as a lifestyle enlivens your spirit, keeps you spiritually on fire and enhances your effectiveness. Prayer is equivalent with power. To be prayerless is to be powerless. The more prayerful you are the more spiritual power you are able to exercise. Indeed, heartfelt prayer always produces undeniable proofs (Acts. 4:23). As a Minister’s wife, prayer is one of your greatest assets. It is a mandatory not optional. Wake up sister. Wake up at midnight or anytime to pray. Refuse to fold your hands at the oppression and opposition of the enemy through prayerlessness.
My dear sister, you are meant to be a blessing and support to your husband, lifting his hands up as he carried out his God-given assignment just like Aaron and Hur were to Moses. Ex. 17:12.You are the only wife of your husband God gave you to him as a precious, valuable gift and the moment you were joined together in marriage the Bible says you became one flesh, “…for this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they two shall be one flesh” (Matt. 19:5)
You need to ensure that you maintain a healthy husband/wife relationship as this will not happen automatically or simply because you are Ministers of the gospel.
Many anointed men of God fall on the lapse of other women because they have wives who are not caring. You need to remember that your anointed husband is an earthen vessel who has feelings and desires like other men. Don’t think he is a superman, even Jesus was tempted. Note, men are simply boys in trousers. Be sensitive to his needs. Ensure that you see to his comfort at all times.
As a wife do not deny your husband that conjugal right/sexual relationship in the pretence that you are spiritual or that he is not forthcoming. Sometimes don’t wait until he comes to you or arouse the interest, go to him and do it for it is your right and his body is your own.
Also learn to keep some family secrets. Do not throw open to your children, members of the family or the public everything that happens between you and your husband. If you do, both of you will loose your respect. Respect your spouse and keep his family secret. It is not ideal for your children to always know when you have misunderstanding with your spouse and the cause of it. Respect him.
Trust and communication are the two important keys that will properly help you as a wife in marriage.Trust – Proverbs 31:16, says that the heart of a virtuous woman’s husband safely trusts her. That may be because she makes a difference in his life in every sphere. Make it a point of duty to find something that you can do daily to add to your husband’s life spiritually, emotionally, physically, etc.
Communication – This means using words, actions, body language, letters, etc with a view to making your husband and the environment/society not only listen to what you are saying and feeling but also for you to understand them. “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45) and, “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he” (Prov. 23:7). Since the tongue of a person has the capacity to set his whole course of life ablaze and burn down in a moment, what he had built over the years. It is very critical to deal with our tongues from its roots – James 3:5,6; Prov. 14:1.
The Most Rev. Chimezuo Nwankpa, Archbishop of Uyo, Methodist Church Nigeira
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